My partner’s dog adores me, to the point where it’s almost disturbing. She routinely gets in bed between us - and no, that’s not to keep me away from him, it’s to keep him away from me! When we manage to oust her - she’s a Rhodesian Ridgeback in her prime, so big and strong - she chooses to nestle up to me all night.
She loves giving kisses on the lips, which I don’t permit, and she’s a smart dog so she knows this. I generally manage to keep her at bay, but if I let down my guard and give her access - SLURP!
I live downstairs from my boyfriend, so while we’re together a lot I have my own separate space. She often deposits herself outside my door, and just stays there. (I don’t let her in - I have three cats and they would Not. Approve. At. All.)
The thing is, I’m not really a dog person. I like her a lot, and I’m happy to give her affection, take her on walks, give her treats, and generally behave like a good human around her. But I don’t feel a real bond with her, and honestly she’s a real PITA when she leaps into bed when I’m trying to snuggle with my partner. We can and do shut the door so she can’t come in, but that also keeps his cat out, and I’m perfectly happy to have the feline companionship, so that’s a strike against the dog in my book, since I either have to put up with her overbearing behavior or be deprived of having the cat to snuggle with.*
I don’t get it. It’s not like her owner isn’t kind to her - he does adore her, and (ugh) lets her give him kisses on the mouth. She’s perfectly happy to be around him, and does obey him. But it’s pretty obvious she’d like nothing more than to become my dog.
Dogs are supposed to be attuned to human signals. Surely she must understand that her wild affection is not reciprocated. Anyone else have an animal “fan” they don’t feel the same way about?
*It’s a big bed, in case you’re wondering - a California king, is I think what they call it. So there is plenty of space for all of us.