A few weeks after my second child was born, my husband presented me, on Mother’s Day, with a gift from him to me.
It was a gift set with a bottle of tequila and a bottle of margarita mix.
I cried ALL DAY.
What’s wrong with that gift?
I just had a baby. I wasn’t a drinker. As I’ve told my now-ex many times since then, you just don’t give alchohol for mother’s day. Not to your mother, not to your wife, not to your wife’s mother.
You just don’t.
I still had the post-partum stuff going on, but even if I didn’t, I still would’ve hated the gift. Other women get flowers, perfume, maybe some nice jewelry… I got Liquor. Ugh.
I never thought of that.
I’m sure glad I found out women don’t like getting alchohol for Mother’s Day from some anonymus woman on a message board rather than from my future angry SO! 
yay, another senseless power tool gift avoided…
did we mention NO POWER TOOLS, and NO CLEANING SUPPLIES [especially vacuum cleaners>
I know someone who one year got a chain saw, and the next year got a vacuum cleaner. :smack: third year there was a divorce.
best gift? a nice day spa gift certificate…one that has options that she can get like a choice between a facial or a foot massage, or stuff like that so she can srt of customze it a little=) This way she doesnt end up with yet another bottle of some perfume, or yet another boring vase of flowers… 
I, for one, would have loved to have been gifted with power tools for Mother’s Day. But no cleaning supplies.
I would’ve loved the Tequila, but I’m guessing that’s how most women get to be mothers in the first place. (I understand some do it on purpose, but I can’t comprehend WHY.)
This is my first Mother’s Day. Last year I was nine months pregnant on Mother’s Day and my sister got me a Mother-to-be card. She’s taking me to lunch tomorrow provided my son and his father feel better. They’re both sick and I wouldn’t leave them here all alone.
I’m waiting to see what I’ll get. It doesn’t matter though, I’m in the, “It’s the thought that counts” camp because, really, thoughts my way just aren’t that frequent. I can’t wait until Alex is old enough to make me cards at school. That’s just going to be soo cool.
Funny. My ma is really keen on one of those Roomba vacuums. Not that it would ever work in our house, but she really likes the idea.
I think I’ll just stick to the card and a phone call, but my family isn’t big into buying gifts for all sorts of non-holidays (only x-mas and b-days require a gift). Seems to work fine. I hate buying gifts for people in general (and, obviously don’t expect any gifts either since I don’t give them to anyone).
That said, I’m pretty sure my mom would be quite happy to get tequila and margherita mix for mother’s day seeing as it’s impossible (or near-impossible) to get margherita mix in Sweden and has to get it brought over from the US…
My mother sent me a lovely floral arrangement in a keepsake vase.
I don’t like flowers. They remind me of funerals, they’re disposable giftage and plants feel like flowers with obligation, ugh. Mom knows this, specifically because we discussed it by phone a few months ago when a guy I’m dating gave me flowers for Valentines Day and her exact advice was “Anyone who knows you or has listened to you even the slightest bit knows you don’t like flowers, he doesn’t seem to be very clued in does he?”
So I’m hoping she sent me flowers because my cousin just opened a florist shop, trying to throw a little business to my cousin and all that.
Whatever the case, I immediately re-gifted to my child-care provider who actually appreciates flowers and sent mom a thank you letter. Flowers are a perfectly nice Mothers Day gift, just not for me.
I’m taking dr_mom_mcl out to dinner. On my budget, she BETTER appreciate it.
(jesting. she will. she’s nice that way.)
She got a few boat bumpers from time to time, as I recall, but she actually asked for those.
Unless you marry me.
I understand that the OP isn’t a big drinker and so the gift was inappropriate for her, but I don’t think the sweeping generalization quoted above is quite accurate. I would guess there are quite a few women (myself and my own mother included) who would find that gift (or a bottle of wine, a bottle of Bailey’s, or any other liqueur) perfectly appropriate and delightful.
I can certainly see the logic in that gift. It’s like R&R (which most new moms desperately need) in a bottle. Hell, I’d rather like that gift myself. Mmmm, margaritas.
Of course, I’m the sort of woman who actively campaigns to get power tools for my birthday, so what do I know?
Glad I’m not the only woman who thinks that way. Most people think I’m crazy when I tell them that one of my favorite Christmas gifts was the tool box (complete with tools) that my parents gave me when I was a senior in high school.
As for Mother’s Day presents…my mom certainly didn’t seem disappointed the year Dad and I gave her a half-case of her favorite wines.
Actually, that seems to go for everyone these days. My ownership of a basic set of tools (saw, screwdrivers, wrenches, hammer, drill) and my ability to use them with partial competency is cause for amazement to all and sundry.
Bad Mother’s Day Gifts? Gawd, I’ve had some doozies.
The year ‘I’ got a 'Cuta boat (almost derelict and in much need of repair). I’d never liked boats or sailing anyway, especially when your foot plunges through the plywood into the ocean below. 
The year ‘I’ got a lovely pot-bellied stove for the Shed…the same shed where I was refused admittance because it was a Sheila-Free Zone…only blokes and beer and bullshit allowed. Oh, and Cuta boats being restored.
I got some fluffy slippers one year. I’m not a fluffy slipper kind of gal.
But you know…it really doesn’t matter. I don’t care whether I am presented with half-burnt toast and freshly squeezed orange juice (with the peel still floating in the glass) or a rotting boat or gross fluffy slippers, or all those years of lovely Macaroni Masterpieces (courtesy of the kids at school and kinder).
I wouldn’t have minded a bottle of Tequila though.
Well, lets see, this is my 6th Mother’s Day. The last five years DH bought me either earrings or perfume…this year he didn’t get me anything…that was pretty lame.
Jewelry and perfume are nice, I would have appreciated a nice bottle of good Vodka, but I would have LOVED a belt sander.
But, the absolute best gift I got was a flower pot with a marigold in it that my son (5 yrs old) gave me on Friday. They decorated the pots in class and planted the flowers themselves. Also he wrote all the words and drew all the pictures on my card himself for the first time. It was so sweet.
Count me in as another who would love to get an alcoholic gift on Mother’s Day. I am very fond of several types of alcohol, and view such gifts as perfectly appropriate, assuming that the giver is over 21. Chocolate is also always appreciated.
For the record, my husband defrosted the deepfreeze over the weekend (it’s ancient, but it still works) and my daughter cooked me a lovely lamb dinner. I appreciated both offerings very much.
I have never received a bad Mother’s Day gift from my child. Every gift he gives me is cherished. This year, he painted a plant pot and planted some flowers in it for me.
I do not expect my husband to buy me a Mother’s Day gift. I’m not his mother.