Had a very good friend in high school. We still hung out for about 10 years afterwards. Intelligent, talented guy.
I moved 100 miles away, but we would visit each other. He was also a very good friend of my cousin, but kept hitting on her, which she did not want anything to do with other than friends.
Anyway, when I would visit, ALL he would do is bitch about the government. I happen to have a government job, and I bitch about the government too.
But, he kept insinuating how I have it ‘made’ working for the gov, and I have such an easy job (I don’t. At all). I got very tired of his sideswipes.
My cousin (who really is my best friend) finally told him to take a hike after he asked her to pretend to be his girlfriend at his businesses company party. I had had enough of this as well, and have not talked to him since.
I guess this is not so trivial, or silly. It is sad to me though.
Close friend through college for many years. He had a fling with the girlfriend of another of my friends. When the fling fell apart, I think I became a third-party collateral casualty when he distanced and cut social ties.
She kept cancelling at the last moment whenever we made plans. Granted we date for a month and it didn’t work out (partly for that reason). But we decided to stay friends and we would get along on text and stuff for the most part
But for almost five months we were trying to find a time to grab a meal, and she couldn’t afford to once. Every time, something would happen on the day of. I kept reaching the conclusion that she wasn’t into the idea, but whenever I would bring it up, she would assert that she did want to see me. The final straw was when after yet another cancellation (maybe the fifth in a row), the next day we were able to find a time yet again. This time, there were finally no last-minute messages from her calling it off. I actually drove there (35 minutes). I get there, text her, and ten minutes she responds that she was throwing up all night. Okay she might have been, but this time she was really just sounding like the [girl] who cried wolf. I tried to be sympathetic, and it did turn out that she couldn’t make it and I had driven all this way for nothing. That night I expressed my frustration, and both of us were irritated with each other. She was apologizing, half-assedly. She get again asserted that she did indeed want to see me. But she was also getting upset with me for “holding past baggage above her” which I thought was ridiculous. Of course, the fact she did this over and over again for months and not manage meet a single time as a result, would cause me to lose my patience at some point, especially when the last time I actually drove the long way there. And the last 5 or so cancellations at least I was chill about it too. I thought I had given her more than enough chances. It seemed pretty questionable that she was just that unlucky that every time something would come up at exactly a time we would agree to meet.
We are both going to college anyway, so it was useless to do anything with this. I had lost most interest in seeing her, that I had before, anyway. She is nice and has a good heart, but her irresponsibility and incessant lack of respect for my time was just too much. After that conversation, we said goodbyes, and then I deleted her off of social media.
One of my best friends who I’d known for over 25 years at a party over some stupid thing turned to me and said don’t ever call me again and turned around and walked away. Fuck him.