Ever made a really BIG move, like X-country? Tell me!

So life continues apace and in some fairly wierd directions.

I recently accepted a new job that requires me to relocate from the 'Merican west coast to near-ish the 'Merican east coast. I spent about a day dancing around sing-songing “I got the jo-ob, I got the jo-ob” before the rational side of my brain took over and went “I have to move my whole freaking house of stuff 2000 miles OHMIGOD WHAT HAVE I DONE?” I quickly reviewed that in less than 8 weeks I have to: clean my house thoroughly and arrange it for showing; list my house for sale; sell my house; go through all my stuff and designate keep/donate/throw away; pack; find a place to live 2000 miles away; (hopefully) buy the adorable new place I have magically found on little notice; and physically transport my houseful of stuff, two dogs, and The Deerslayer (Honda) to my almost entirely unknown new town.

Every time I think about it I lose hope and have to lie down.

Well, I’m partly kidding there; I’m making some progress. The house is clean and show-ready and will be listed Monday, and I’m slowly making my way through the various closets. (The dreaded Garage waits in the background, chuckling malevolently.)

But if anyone else has lost their mind sufficiently to undertake such an . . . undertaking, I’d love to hear how it all worked out and how long it took after completion for the twitching to stop.

I did it last year: 2,436 miles with two people, two cars, three dogs, and two very angry cats. Luckily, my job paid for movers to take the household stuff. We did it in four days and four Motel 6 stays.

Nine months later: Still recovering but starting to settle in. A lot of the shock has been cultural (from major W. Coast metro area to small town in rural Midwest).

Just curious, where at on the East Coast round abouts? I’ve never done quite that far, but my family has done a Texas to Pennsylvania and West Virginia to North Carolina move before, and it really wasn’t too bad. For me, pretty fun.

I once moved from New Jersey to Arizona. I then moved from Arizona to North Dakota. Then I went from North Dakota to Montana (not very far, but a scenic day’s drive!). In July, I get to move from Montana to Georgia–via a long route back home through New Jersey (gotta pick up some furniture).

So yeah, I’ve moved across country before.

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I must admit, I liked North Dakota, too.

1998: I drove a U-Haul filled with an apartment’s worth of stuff from Vancouver to the Niagara Falls area.

1999: My wife moved all of that stuff from the Niagara Falls area to Pasadena, CA with the help of her parents.

2001: My wife and I move all that stuff again from Pasadena to Princeton, NJ.

2003: We move all that stuff again from Princeton to Toronto, ON. (Okay, that was just a little move. Only a 10-hour drive.)

2004: We move again from Toronto to Riverside, CA. We used a moving company that time.

Oh, and two months from now: we’re moving all of our crap, again, from Riverside back to Ontario…just so that we can put it into storage prior to moving to Australia for three years.

So yeah. Been there. Done that. All of the moves worked out eventually. Best advice I can give you: some of your stuff will receive minor damage during the move. Doesn’t matter if you move it yourself or if you hire a moving company, there will be scratches, dings, and the occasional dent. Be emotionally prepared to accept this as a fact of life; you have more important things to worry about. Besides, a good furniture repair shop can work miracles.

Jodi, do you have friends where you’re going? I love moving, but I’ve only done halfway across the country, and it was “back home”, so it wasn’t the same as going to a brand new place.

We did Seattle to Iowa in 1990. I kept a journal. It was a nightmare and fun at the same time. We had cars to sell and pets who needed new homes, in addition to everything else.

June 4: Started showing the house.

June 5: Accepted a full price offer on the house, from a doctor. Hey, that was easy!

We had already cleaned up the house, but now we started getting rid of stuff that wasn’t worth moving.

July 9: Appraiser showed up. Buyer having problems with financing.

July 12: Took pictures of Buddy (the dog) to the vet (we had to find a home for him). The cats were already spoken for.

July 13: Took Mama cat to new home. :frowning:

July 15: Sold the 1959 and 1964 Pontiacs.

July 20: Moving van came. See, the realtor said back on June 5 that we’d be closing in six weeks, tops, so we scheduled the van. We kept back a mattress, some stuff to cook with, a little TV, two lawn chairs, and personal items. Everything else went to Iowa in the van.

July 21: Took Bonkers (#2 cat) to new home. :frowning:

July 24: Sister-in-law in Iowa called to say our stuff had arrived. Good thing she had a double garage she wasn’t using for her car.

July 25: Signed closing papers on the house. Lady came to look at Buddy the dog. She liked him. He liked her. Waved bye to Buddy. :frowning:

July 28: Signed closing papers again – different ones. The buyer is getting a loan from his dad to buy the house. He didn’t have financing!

August 2: Signed more closing papers.

August 3: Picked up the check. Bought new tires for the 1969 Pontiac, a pretty opal and diamond ring, and a camcorder. Packed the car.

Oh, and jammed in with all this were going away parties, leaving a job of eight years, daughter saying goodbye to a boyfriend, Seafair, the Greenwood parade, afternoons saying goodbye to Elliott Bay Bookstore, my brother’s fourth wedding, plus mom calling every day – “You sure you want to do this?” Yeah, mom.

August 4: Pulled out of the driveway. Daughter and youngest son in his bright yellow Toyota pickup, hubby and I in the 69 Pontiac. No cell phones. “Let’s just keep up with each other for the next 1800 miles, all right?” Hahahahahaha.

We got separated crossing Lake Washington. The Blue Angels were practicing, and we got stuck in traffic. We found the kids but not until we got to Spokane. (Yellow’s a good color for a vehicle.)

We drove through to Missoula, Montana, where we slept in the vehicles in a truck stop parking lot. I’d forgotten all about the Sturgis rally. Bikers like motels too, and they plan ahead.

August 5: Made it to Deer Lodge, Montana and found a motel in the early afternoon. Toured the old state penitentiary and played pool in a bar.

We dawdled our way across the country, visited Yellowstone and spent a night in Cody, Wyoming, where I’d like to live someday. Made it to Iowa on August 8 and spent a month living with nice relatives while we looked for a house and jobs.

I didn’t stop twitching until we had moved into our own house, with our own stuff, and until we’d been a couple of days without a phone, because mom was still calling. “You sure you want to do this?”

If I had to do it over again, I wouldn’t have accepted an offer on the house unless I was sure the buyer had financing. Even back then I was too old to sleep on a mattress on the floor.

Good luck with your move. I envy you the experience. :slight_smile:

In January 2000 my family and I moved 2,000 kms from New Zealand to Australia, which wasn’t actually as difficult as we’d expected.

We packed our bags with enough clothes, toiletries, etc to last us for 2 weeks, then the movers came in, packed up the entire house, and took it away.

We got on the plane in Christchurch, got off in Brisbane, stayed in an apartment for 2 weeks until we could get our bearings, jobs, etc, then moved into a rented place.

Our household items arrived about 8 weeks later, and from there it was business as usual, albeit 2000kms away in a totally different country!

The fact that I drove through the same town last year on my way to San Francisco makes this even funnier.

In '97 I moved from Montreal to Vancouver, and in 2003 I moved to New York. Someday I’ll actually visit a city before moving there, but jumping in with both feet is pretty fun.

For the first move, we had a friend who had moved out west the year before find us an apartment on a month-to-month lease. While writing down addresses, we noticed that another friend who had moved out west was living in our new building! So after we moved in, we walked downstairs one day to surprise him :wink:

Moving to New York was pretty similar. The university supplied an apartment (it’s fun not having to look for a home), but we ran into chaos with the movers, and didn’t receive our furnishings until a month after we’d moved in. Luckily we spent 9 days of that month in France, but I left a pair of jeans and a t-shirt in that country, so I didn’t have a lot of clothing variety.

I found myself in Alaska with no job, nobody to turn to, and missing New York. I mailed what few things I had to my sister in New Jersey, and spent three months going cross country on a bus, stopping anywhere I wanted to. It was a great way to see America.

Packed up whatever I could fit on my car-top rental thingy, threw Kid Kalhoun in the front seat, and moved from Chicago to Denver on about 10 day’s notice.

I probably wouldn’t have done that if I wasn’t 23 years old. I don’t regret it, but it certainly wasn’t easy.

Our family has moved from China to Australia to Canada and back to Australia. I was too young to have any part in the process but my advice to you is: pick out your favourite books. The rest will have to go.

Most of the time my family moved, I was young enough not to really be a apart of the process too much. When I hit HS age, my responisbility was my stuff. Luckily, every time my parents moved, they had movers.

1978 - born in NY, 2 hrs outside of NYC.

1985 - Moved down to Pa, 1/2 hr outta Philly.

1992 - Moved to Northern NJ - 2 hrs outta NYC.

1996 - Two days after I moved to Pittsburgh, Pa for college, the folks moved to Dallas, Tx. I spent one summer in NM, one summer in Dallas, then…

1999 - The folks moved to just outside of Worcester, Ma.

2001 - I moved in with the folks.

Since then, I have moved out, moved back in, and moved out to this current locale (Narragansett, RI.)

I beg to differ. Books are the easiest thing to move; they fit neatly into boxes (use the small ones!) and have no trouble being the base for more boxes on top of them. It’s the fragile stuff I always had issues with. And, books can always (in the US) be shipped at “book rate.” Cheapest thing around, but it can take 2 weeks to get where they’re going.

Having done the US-to-Europe (and back), I second FlyingRamenMonster. Most of the stuff you think you need? No, you don’t. Easier (and often cheaper) to replace furniture than to move it that distance.

I’ve never done coast-to-coast US, though, so it may be easier here.

I just moved a thousand miles north. I own no furniture, however, so I didn’t have to move that. Most of my stuff is still at home. I think that my parents plan to bring it to me when they come to visit, but it’s not a top priority, though it would allow me to pile plastic containers everywhere.

I have done it several times. I recommend my mantra “This will all be over someday.” Repeat it as often as needed (several hundred times, on some days). Seriously, moving is a pain in the ass, but it is a time-limited pain in the ass. It will be over. There is a day when you will be all cozily settled in your new home. Just take it one day at a time, one task at a time and remember the end goal.

The sweetest move I ever made was while I was with a military (Canadian) man. They paid for the movers and provided the home. People came into our house, packed our stuff, moved it to the new house, and unpacked it. Well, I actually stopped them from unpacking things, because they were just taking them outta boxes and unwrapping the fragiles, leaving them wherever they landed. Sweeeet.

I left Alberta and moved to Baltimore four years ago Monday. I left most everything behind. Doesn’t bother me, much.

We’ve done it twice. Ivylad was in the Navy. We went from Connecticut to San Diego then from San Diego to South Carolina in the space of two years.

Really, I know it seems like a lot of work, but you just do it. Make your list of everything you have to do, maybe put deadline dates if those are critical, and you’ll get it done.

I would recommend not buying until you’ve been in your new locale at least six months to a year. You’ll want to drive around, see what area works best for you, then buy. Rent for six months, put stuff in storage if you have to. It will be cheaper in the long run than plopping money down on that adorable little place that turns out to be right in the middle of Crack Cocaine Central.

It’s overwhelming, isn’t it? I made a 3000 mile move unexpectedly. Totally different scenario than yours, though, so not much helpful to add. :smack:

I had to call my mother and she and my father boxed things up and sent them out to me little by little. In the end I told her to give most of it to charity, and I never did see most of my stuff again. I have new stuff now. :stuck_out_tongue:

Anyway, good luck to you!

Moving is a good way to clean house. You’ll stumble over stuff and say, “Oh, is that where it’s been? Huh” and “It will cost more to move this than to buy a new one when I get there.”

Basically, my rule is, if you forgot you had it, you don’t need it if you find it.