My problem with that is that I can’t see how in the world my use of language is “authorative talking.” It’s just general advice giving language.
This actually is what I think people like @Princhester are getting at. A lot of times if feels like there are these weird gotchas in all of this. Even though I use that language all the time without anyone expressing any offense, I’m expected to somehow know that someone will interpret it in a way I completely did not intend.
I can see someone who thinks they’re just having a normal conversation, talking the way they talk to everyone, but a woman perceives it as talking down to them, and thus they get labeled a mansplainer.
I can easily handle avoiding the sort of thing in that article. I don’t tell women how to be a woman. If a woman tells me she’s an expert, or I know from any other information, I will defer to their expertise. But avoiding any turn of phrase that is considered “authoritative talking”? That seems largely impossible.
There does seem like there should be some level of meeting in the middle on that particular aspect.
And, if the problem is the general content and not those words, I genuinely do not know how in the world I was expected to know, from @Saint_Cad’s post, that he knew that the term “womansplaining” might be perceived badly by people other than his wife. That seemed like he expected me to read his mind. (Still, I apologize for insulting you, SC. It was not my intent.)
If someone gives me advice or information I already knew, my response is just “Thanks, but I already knew that.” Not getting offended. I’m still genuinely thankful for the attempt. It’s only insulting when they clearly already know that I knew that, or should have known.