For those that don’t feel like reading the thread in its entirety, the relevant posts are quoted below:
As you can see, I’ve gotten myself into a situation that I swore I never would be again after being in one failed (domestic) online relationship but I’m holding out hope that his one will not only work, but thrive.
As I said in the quoted material, I know that this will take a lot of work… even more so than your normal relationship due to the vast distance involved and the cultural differences but I’m willing to work at it. My going there is actually the first step in trying to make it happen… I don’t want this to be one of those online relationships where it takes forever for it to become a real-life one.
Anyway, does anyone have any experiences, either good or bad… successful or failed, they’d like to relate?
I don’t have experiences with online relationships, but I did meet a small group of male expats in the Philippines who had married Filipino women and settled down over there. I’m not saying for one second that I was privy to their inner feelings, but from what I saw and heard (I stayed in the area for two months) they all seemed to have happy marriages.
I wish you the best of luck and hope you get some helpful advice
I know a few Filipina women who are married to Australian men. My sister’s Sicilian in-laws are particularly fond of marrying them ::ahem:: this isn’t the pit so I won’t rant about very young women supporting their families back in the Philippines while married to much older men in Australia. Your situation sounds much more equal than that though
Culture and economic prospects – think about what her family situation is. Will there be an expectation that you send money back?If she comes to the US, what support is here for her? Are there other Filipinas where you live? Language? How good is her English?
Will there be an expectation that you send money back?
Are you asking if I’m expected to help support her? If so, I wouldn’t think so. We haven’t talked much about my family or hers but from what I understand, they’re well enough off. For example, she’s able to live at home and go to school with no job.
If she comes to the US, what support is there for her?
At this moment in time, that’s a bit off. We’re at the very beginning of the relationship and except for my going there to visit her, not much else has been discussed.
If all goes well, it’ll be up to her as to what we do though. If she wants to stay at home with her parents, I’ll be there with her and if she wants to move to the US, I’ll be there with her too. Only more happily.
Are there other Filipinas where you live?
None so far as I know. I live in a mid-sized town in Eastern Tennessee and its not exactly known as being the most cosmopolitan city.
How good is her English?
Equal to mine, easily. She’s also three years into a(n engineering) college degree if that means anything.