I have a couple people on FB who have either been killed, or in one case committed suicide. None of their pages are memorialized to my knowledge, but people do still post fond memories or just post to say they are thinking about them. I think it’s cathartic in a way, feeling like you can communicate with that person in a tangible fashion even after they’re gone. I don’t consider it creepy, just depressing sometimes.
Thank you. At some point I may take that step, but I think it’s too soon. We like seeing the messages on his wall and I enjoy posting to it myself. For now a ‘browse invisibly’ option, if Facebook has one, would satisfy me.
My sister was killed two years ago. Her facebook account is still “active,” maintained by my mom. Every now and then, I look at it to see what people have posted. It’s nice to see stories from her college friends, or messages around the time when she died or around her birthday. What does bother me is seeing messages like, “You haven’t posted on [Your sister’s] wall in awhile. Why don’t you say hello?” It’s unsettling.
Oh, you can still post on his wall, and get notifications when someone else has. I still post on Mike’s wall occasionally, even two years later.
We host a MikeyB memorial jam session (we went to a music college), and it’s always posted on his wall, so people have a central place to get information.