Facebook and old crushes - who knew???

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Total MPSIMS
I’ve been active on Facebook for about 4 months now.

Shortly after I began “facebooking”, my ex sister-in-law ( who frequently uses poor judgment ) - got evicted from her home and moved her and my 13 year old niece in with a male friend of her. So I got the guys name and looked him up – and he looked familar.

After reviewing his Facebook page I realized I went to high school with him and we were in some after school clubs together. I probably wouldn’t have even remembered him if he hadn’t stayed in touch with several other high school friends and friended them on Facebook. I debated sending him a friend request (thinking it might cause my ex-sil to start some drama) but he sent me one before I decided.

No big deal, family friend. I still wasn’t even sure if he remembered me from high school. We aren’t young people, I’m almost 55 and high school ended 35 years ago.

So my Mom met him at a family event and asked him if he remembered me. His laughed a bit at the question and said “of course I do, I used to have a huge crush on her.”

Big suprise, who knew. I certainly had no idea at the time.

Then a few weeks ago I got an e-mail from another facebook friend. This one was a guy I went to college with. My college theatre department has an alumni page so I friended several old college pals, some of whom I barely remembered including a guy named Jim.

Last week I got an e-mail from Jim. I almost deleted it as spam until I realized the subject line was a reference to an “in” joke from my college days. The e-mail was nice and sweet and full of old college references including an old nickname of mine I haven’t thought of in 30 years. It was obvious that Jim was a LOT more aware of me in college than I was of him…and from the tone and his very specific memories I suspect he had a crush on me that I never suspected…again, who knew.

So I guess I was pretty clueless in my youth, but it’s illuminating that I am finding all this out now and I’m realizing that 30 years is a long time and we have all come so far and changed so much.

I don’t really have point, like I said total MPSIMS
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Something similar happened to me recently. A man who was one of my younger brother’s friends came up to me at a party and “confessed” that he’d been yearning for me all these long years and regrets not talking to me when our band was playing at a local bar. I, at the time, was barely aware of his existance and he was just my brother’s friend so he fell into the “little brother” category for me.

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I had an old crush friend me out of the blue not long ago. It’s weird how many emotional memories that stirred up.

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Heh. I finally friended a guy I’ve harbored a not-so-teensy little crush on after avoiding it for years. (We have mutual IRL friends.) I was afraid Drunk Me would do something Sober Me would regret. I finally got over myself and friended him … and felt my crush evaporate. Apparently, I never got to know him that well IRL.

I can’t be attracted to someone with values, political views, etc. that are so dissimilar from mine.

Wish I’d friended him a long time ago. Bye-bye, inappropriate crush.

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I wish my crushes evaporated like that. I have to manually decide I’m not going to spen any time thinking about them.

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Man, I love social networking sites for people over 40. My mom was contacted by a friend from a sports team they were on in high school. My mom wrote he back a long email about my dad, the kids, her job, and other stuff. She got nothing in response, and so she emailed her best friend from high school asking WTF just happened with this chick. Turns out the chick is a lesbian and was trying to pick my mom up :smack:. My mom is the queen of clueless. “Is thaaaaaaat why she didn’t want to hear about (your dad)?”

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My mom loves Facebook: she got so thrilled when she discovered she could check up on her old friends. I just wish she wouldn’t have gotten addicted to the games.