Too mild for the Pit: I signed on to Facebook a while ago, and recently I got a “friends” request from a friend of a friend - I’ve got no idea who she is. I checked her profile, and she’s got over a thousand friends.
As far as I can tell, she just wants to be the kid in class with more friends than anyone.
I’d like to send her a message telling her to bugger off, but that’s not very polite.
So I’ll probably just ignore her, never accept and never deny. That’ll show her - checking her page every day, wondering if Piper ever got back to her…
I think Facebook could resolve a lot of its problems–or at least what I consider problems–if they do away with the “friend” counter entirely. Seriously, just remove that small little line and the stray invites should go away, returning Facebook’s usage to its original purpose.
Don’t forget that if you decline, she doesn’t get a message to say you’ve declined. And with the number of friend requests it sounds like she sends out, she’ll probably never notice.
Hell, I don’t want 4 and 5 digit amounts of friends; I can hardly keep up with my news feed as it is with a count in the 80s. And I’m considering thinning the herd as it stands right now anyway.
While we’re bitching about Facebook, I might as well add my pet peeve…you should be able to hide single posts from your news feed without having to hide the friend altogether.
I’m way more easy-going about Facebook, in that I allow most everyone access to my Facebook page, including my ex, people I know only casually, my family, etc. (unlike LJ wherein I only have specific people)…but that still doesn’t mean I want to friend all and sundry! I don’t want friends of friends that I have never even interacted with, let alone never met!
While we’re bitching about it, I hate how it picks through my e-mail contacts to make friends recommendations. Years ago I sent a few e-mails to a potential patient here at the hospital, and now she’s popping up as a friend recommendation. That’s all sorts of inappropriate.
It’s curious why this person needed to friend you anyway. I guess it’s one thing if you’re at 99 and all you need is one more to bump you up to 100. But after 1000+, what’s the point?
I sometimes get annoyed with the status updates by my real friends…I can’t imagine wading through the updates of 1000 random strangers.
Okay. I admit. I’m friending people I don’t know to get them on my Mafia. However, once they’re on my crew, I delete them as friends (they stay on my Mafia.)
Ivylad, however, posted on the Mafia forum and got deluged with friend requests. He’s got over 500 on his Mafia and got lots of new foods from visiting his new “friends” in Restaurant City. It’s just going to take him awhile to cull them all out again.
While we’re bitching more about Facebook (and I’ll readily admit that I’m a total FB n00b, so there’s probably an easy way to do this and when I’m over being ecstatic because somebody tells me, I’ll find time to be embarrassed):
No, I don’t want to be in anybody’s Mafia, on their pirate crew, or in their wizard school. I don’t want to take their quizzes, and when I decide to take a quiz, I don’t want to be required to show my results to everybody on my friends list. I’m also not interested in the lastest piece of virtual “flair” you’ve gotten, who’s killed who in your Mafia, or what position your virtual race car came in in the latest race.
I’m sure all these things are fun for you (editorial “you,” not anyone in particular), and that’s wonderful. But how do I get rid of them so they don’t clutter up my newsfeed? I’m really only interested in what my friends have to say, not everything that’s going on in their myriad of apparently highly addictive online games.
I really don’t mean that to sound grumpy. It’s just that I don’t spend much time on Facebook, and I’d like to make the time I spend count by getting updates on what my friends are doing, not wading through acres of useless stuff.
winterhawk11, there’s a button on the upper left corner of the homepage that says “Status Updates.” Click this and you’ll only see your friends’ status updates, not the quizzes and other b.s…
I accidentally accepted a friend of a friend and I absolutely hate his posts. He pinged me for an IM and just bored me to tears. I want to dump him, but I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. If I dump him, will he know?
My ex-wife met some dude at a party and he chatted her up for a while and then asked if she’d friend him on FB. She figured what the hell and added him a couple of days later. Soon after that she took a closer look at his page and saw that his most recent comment was, “Woo hoo. Just hit 3000 friends!” Of course she immediately un-friended him and was pleased to see that he deleted that comment a few minutes later.
I played around on FB for a few weeks then deactivated my account. Apart from the rampant silliness, I got sick of the few friends who used it as their political, religious, and social soapbox. When it got to be too aggravating, I quit. Don’t even miss it. Heck, only one friend emailed to ask why I’d left, so I obviously wasn’t missed.
I’ve been known to accept friend requests from people I really don’t give two hoots about (just to spare their feelings), then put them on “hide” so I don’t have to see every dumb quiz they took or every Adam Sandler clip they posted. Food for thought.
He won’t receive any notification if you dump him. The only way he’ll know is if he looks for you and discovers you’re not a friend anymore. The alternative is to just hide him.
I de-friended an old high school acquaintance who was posting racist comments before the election last year. A few weeks later he tried to friend me again and I ignored him. I think he got the hint.
I’m selective about who I “friend”. Basically, I’m only friends with people I actually know and have met, with the exception of my Mumper pals. Actually, I’ve met a couple of the Mumpers.
I use it to keep in contact with one of my sisters who lives clear over in Maryland, and a cousin who lives in Oregon. I also keep in touch with a couple of old childhood friends this way.
So, my friend list isn’t huge, but I don’t care. I don’t get this need to have a “bajillion” friends on Facebook.
If someone is posting crap I don’t care about, I hide their posts.
Yes, but unless they hide you, they’ll see all your updates and such. That’s why I was a bit concerned that Ivylad has all these Mafia friends who may be seeing personal stuff he may post about the family and goings-on. That’s why I make sure once someone’s on my Mafia crew, I delete them as a friend. Hell, I even tell people looking to grow their Mafia crew that I’ll join their crew, but they’ll be deleted as a friend right after.
This person wasn’t called “Jessee Liversidge” was she? I got a friend request from her and saw that she was friends with heaps of my friends from a certain part of my life. I thought that I must know her but was just blanking on who she was. So I accepted the friendship and had a look through her photos, nope, didn’t recognise her. Turns out she’s a transexual, I’m pretty sure I didn’t know any transexuals back then. I got several messages from other people asking “who the fuck is Jessee Liversidge?” Then I realised she was just make her way through friends lists and friending anyone and everyone. Oh well.
Yeah, I’m a little embarrassed, but given that I glance at Facebook for maybe 10 minutes a week, I don’t feel too bad about not finding it.