My FIL sent me a friend request on facebook. (You know FB has jumped the shark when your FIL joins!)
I do not want to friend my FIL. He will comment on my posts. He will post a lot of things. My FIL has a superpower: he will always say the exact thing that you do not want to hear, and he will say it at length. He once talked to my SIL (on the other side, he’d never met her before) for an hour about hunting. I don’t think he’s ever been hunting–does he even know anyone who hunts?–I don’t know why he picked that topic, but of course she’s a vegetarian who thinks hunting is immoral.
Don’t get me wrong, he’s not a terrible person or anything–he’s just very very hard to be in the same room with. We haven’t spoken with him much this year after a sort of family blowup that I didn’t get involved in. We’re on the way to more contact now that the dust has settled, but I don’t want him as a FB friend!
And of course if I don’t accept the request I’ll feel guilty for shutting him out. It’s not his fault, mostly, that he’s hard to live with. Even my BIL who isn’t speaking with him at all has accepted (which kind of surprises me actually). I can’t not do it, but maybe I’ll hide him…gah. Why can’t annoying relatives just stay off the dang facebook?