As much as you may love her, your sister is a dangerous person to be around. Why have you not told her that with COVID, you’re not allowing ANYONE to drop by? Why have you not said you’re not having guests at all between Thanksgiving and Christmas? I’m assuming there are good reasons. I just can’t imagine what they might be.
My wife and I opted out of family christmas gatherings when we got married. I can think of nothing worse than having to go to someone else’s house on Xmas day, or worse, having someone here.
So we’ve never done it and so have no need to make tough decisions this year.
Normally we go away for two weeks over xmas and new year, skiing in Austria but that’s not possible this year so we’ll just have a quiet time at home for the day itself and we’ve booked an apartment for a few days at new year, up where our families live so we can do a bit of catching up at our leisure,
However, I’m suspecting that any sort of social mixing is going to be very limited and if that is the case we are prepared to cancel that and book a remote cottage with hot-tub and open fire instead for a new year change of scenery.
I’ve posted in this forum before about my future son-in-law’s family - not taking precautions, calling it a hoax, calling those who do follow guidelines unpleasant names. This, despite more than a few working in the Mayo Hospital system.
Then, one of his cousins became seriously ill. He’s still on ECMO, progress very slow, no idea if he will actually make it through.
Future son-in-law comes from a massive family. He is one of six, his mom is one of 12 (or 13? I can’t remember). In his culture, family of family is family. Any get-together can easily mean over 80 people in a house. Traditionally, for XMas, the adults (age 19+) draw names of the children for presents.
Head Auntie sent out a text wanting to know who wanted to be included in this year’s gift giving. Only four people responded. Cue her rant about the little ones suffering because of ignorance, it won’t be Xmas if people don’t keep tradition, and “Fine! Christmas is canceled, I don’t care!”
Surprisingly, more than a few of his family replied “That’s what we’ve been trying to tell you - Christmas is canceled! We don’t want to get sick!”
Sad that the clue was obtained through the suffering of a family member; happy they finally got it.