Farewell to Hestia, and the End of an Era

Yesterday we had to do something we had dreaded, but which we knew was coming anyway. Our cat Hestia was almost twenty years old, but had been remarkably fit and agile for almost all of it. Until the weather turned cold, she was patrolling the perimeter of the house, chasing birds and squirrels. She played with the Green Laser Spot, and slept on or by Pepper Mill every night. But in the last few weeks her kidneys finally stopped functioning (we’d been giving her medication for years), and she lost weight rapidly, stopped eating, and had trouble walking. She cried with a new, odd wail, and she always wanted t be in someone’s lap. Finally, she became incontinent, and had trouble simultaneously drinking water and breathing. We took her to the vet for the last time yesterday morning.

She was alert and showed interest in the drive for the first time – probably because she was being held, rather than in a cat carrier, and could look out at the scenery. But it couldn’t disguise her poor condition. The vet had a hard time finding her vein for the injection.

Our daughter MiliCal had grown up with Hestia. She was eight when we got Hestia as a kitten from a neighbor. MilliCal had never known a home without cats.

But it is, as I say, the End of an Era. Hestia was to be our last cat – Pepper Mill has decreed it. It’s the end of over thirty years of cats at the CalMeacham household. Even before we had a house, we got Midnight from the shelter and, the next day, Maggie. They hated each other at first, but eventually reconciled. Then we brought them with us when we moved into our house. (Favorite scene – Midnight and Maggie were put in the bathroom with a litter box while we got everything packed up and sent off to the house. Then we opened the door of the bathroom. They rushed out, then suddenly stopped and looked around, bewildered. Where were they? Where was everything? The room is empty! Is this the same room? They loved it when we got to the house, which was enormous compared to the apartment.

Over the years we’ve had several cats, up to five at one time. And a few visitors. But now that’s all over. I was amazed at the speed that Pepper Mil and MilliCal got rid of things. The scratching pad and the deluxe ”Feliner Diner” scratching structure. The chasing toy had disappeared a few days previously, after Hestia threw up on it. The basket of cat toys was thrown out, except for the cat combs (cleaned, to be given away). The litter boxes and paraphernalia disappeared. The tray that held the cat food was taken away, the bowls cleaned and put away. The paper plate with treats thrown out. The steps that MilliCal bought to enable Hestia to get up onto the bed or the ottoman given away. Hestia disdained it, right up t the end, insisting on jumping up onto both structures and using her claws. “Do you people think I’m OLD??

Pepper and MilliCal didn’t want to see anything that reminded them of her. Now there’s a lot more space in the house. The water bowl I put on my nightstand for Hestia to drink out of (instead of forcing her head into my water glass) is gone. We won’t have to arrange for anyone to watch after and feed the cats when we go away.

I still find myself absently checking to make sure cats don’t escape when we open the front door, or looking to see them in their usual haunts. But they’re all gone, and I won’t see them again.

All my sympathy. I’m actually choking up and getting that painful feeling in the back of the throat thinking about the future fate of our cats (9 and 10 respectively). We’ve lost a number of snakes and lizards over the years, and that hurt, but not in the same way as a ball of fuzz that wants to sit in the lap would.

I’d warn you along the line of “Never say never again” because my 80+ year old parents ended up adopting a (well-behaved) dog because they couldn’t stand not having one around after their last one passed, but you know yourself and family better than I. Let time heal the wounds it can.

Again, my heartfelt sympathy, and may all the good memories carry you forward.

Many hugs.:sad_but_relieved_face:

So Sorry, CalMeacham. So very sorry.

So sorry for your loss of Hestia. Animals certainly leave holes in your heart.

So sorry. They are family.

Sorry for your loss CalMeacham. 20 years is a good run for a cat. They are mysterious creatures we may never fully understand but get great joy from. You had to have cared for her well.

I am so sorry.

For months after we lost our dog, when coming home from work, watching television, or waking up in the morning, I’d sometimes think to myself I needed to take him out. We put the dog stuff away fairly quickly, but we didn’t throw any of it away. Last time I asked Mrs. Odesio about it she said she wasn’t ready, and that’s fine, I can wait.

It’s really amazing to me how much we love our pets and how important they are to us. When they’re gone they leave behind furry little holes in our hearts.

I am so sorry, those little rascals really do steal big chunks of your heart. I am glad you have so many cherished memories of the cats you’ve loved along the way, I hope they are a comfort to you.

I’m so sorry for you loss. We currently have 4 cats, but i suspect they will be our last, because they are young and we are getting old. And just thinking about that makes me sad.

Hestia sounds like she was a wonderful cat. I hope the memory of her keeps you warm at night.

Ohhh, such a hard loss. I am so sorry. What a long and wonderful life she had with you.

If my youngest cat lives as long as your special girl, I’ll be in my 80s when I have to say goodbye to him. That’s a sobering thought. I don’t know if I’d get another but I’ve long thought that, if I could choose my own death, I’d like to go with warm and purring cat-lumps beside me.

Hestia knew she was loved, and she loved you back. For that I am glad.

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Hestia knew she was loved, and she loved you back. For that I am glad.

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Exactly this.

My condolences @CalMeacham . Up until now we’ve lost two cats, one at the ripe old age of seventeen, one after just eight months. Both were very sad. I like the approach of the Arctic peoples who state that animals are nonhuman persons. That’s what it feels like to me. You’ve lost a loved one. Take care and mourn.

My sincere condolences.

However, I suspect the Cat distribution system may indeed temp your resolve for no more cats.

Thank you all for your kind thoughts. I sill find myself looking when I think I’ve caught a moving cat out of the corner of my eye. But she’s gone, I;'m afraid.

Sending hugs to all the Meachams.

Sorry for your loss…somewhere, Hestia is a new kitten,opening her eyes…I like to think this for all our nonhuman persons..

What a lovely tribute. And she had a beautiful classical name too.

For weeks after my dog passed, I would see her in her usual spots out of the corner of my eye.

You should look up a lady named Rainbow Bridge Raina, who can provide a lovely magical tribute to your special one. I think she’s on Etsy. We did that for our Binx.

It’s so hard to lose them, I know. There will never be another like Hestia. But if it pains you to say, “never another cat”, you don’t need to say that right now.
I’m so sorry, Cal.