I definitely agree! None of my friends were the type to pressure girls into having sex. I don’t like it when people imply that men (and teenaged boys) have no self-control.
I definitely agree! None of my friends were the type to pressure girls into having sex. I don’t like it when people imply that men (and teenaged boys) have no self-control.
Because we know what it’s like to feel like a teenage girl and be reasonably intelligent enough to handle ourselves in this situation. We can put ourselves in the mind of a teenage girl and a teenaged boy (since we were pursued by them).
But dad can only see a teenage horndog and his innocent little girl, (NOT the teenaged almost woman one, the little one who danced on his shoes about 5 minutes before boys came calling!). He knows that teenaged horndogs don’t see someone’s little girl when they look at a teenaged girl, but as a conquest.
Unless it’s taken to ridiculous levels, I don’t think it’s creepy at all. It’s sweet, and understandable. I like that men show their emotional vulnerability this way, they have to be the BIG STRONG hero in so many other areas of life.
Yes. That room is called “the sanctuary”, and the father escorts the bride down the aisle, then places her hand in the new husband’s hand, and the priest asks, “Who gives this bride in marraige?”, to which the father replies “Her mother and I” or some such.
I think there’s an element of protectiveness where the father wishes to impart on the suitors that if they mistreat their daughters, there will be hell to pay. Then there’s the creepy aspect of suggesting any sexual contact is a shooting offense. Some people seem to equate those two things.
I also see it as an attitude that the woman my ultimately need daddy’s protection, she can’t take care of herself. Certainly men tend to be bigger and stronger, and rape is a possibility. But the thing is, at the moment of need, daddy is probably not physically there. So the best daddy has is threatening the boy that if it happens, there will be consequences, and making the threat strong enough to overcome other factors, like hormones and alcohol. How successful that approach is I leave as an exercise for the reader.
Why doesn’t your father extend the same respect and autonomy to his daughters that he does their mother, who, presumably, he encourages to have sex?
Since they aren’t extending the same possessiveness towards their son’s penises, it mirrors a bit too closely the possessiveness a husband feels towards his wife. Protective of a child’s feelings and future is a sign of devotion. Overreaching concern with the status of her hymen assumes an intimacy dads shouldn’t indulge in.
DAMNIT, what’s with all the zombies all of a sudden?
Blame Google for the zombies.
My two cents: modern culture being what it is, sometimes an overenthusiastic young man might not take “no” or even “I don’t think I’m ready yet” from the girl he’s getting hot and heavy with. Sometimes it’s the girl who’s an idiot and thinks that sleeping with a dude will make him love her. In either case, Big Scary Overprotective Dad is not an optimal solution (raising your children to think with their heads, not their hearts or groins is), but so long as you don’t go overboard in your boundaries it helps keeps those darned kids honest to some degree. The law says you ain’t an adult until you’re 18, son (or daughter).
Because they’re mere human beings, who have normal human emotions? This isn’t rocket science. They don’t want their little girls hurt. Do they think through the whole “but how would this hurt a girl more than a boy” complexities of it? No, because they’re thinking, with their hearts not their brains, of their little girl, not the woman she is becoming.
As others have mentioned, most men don’t take it to extremes, (acting on the joked about locking up, that is), but are merely whistling past the graveyard when they say things like “locking her up til she’s 30”. They KNOW that that’s not going to happen, that she’ll probably, at the very least, experiment with some sexual activity sometime in her teens, and the juxtaposition of that and their little girls causes a defense mechanism in the form of jokes about locking up their daughters.
As to why don’t they joke the same way about their sons’ innocence or virginity? Same thing, they know what it’s like to be teen boy, who when in horndog mode weren’t worried about being hurt, but in getting laid.
If their jokes were put into actual practice sure, but normal people don’t go past the joking stage.
Well, sex doesn’t always (or usually hurt), and it’s safe to assume the fathers were once teenaged boys who were terribly interested in sex. So are they saying they themselves were heartless horndogs bent on destroying the hopes, dreams, and hymens of young women? Because I don’t want that kind of dad looking out for my girl. I also don’t want her father obsessing over her vagina while encouraging his son to go out and get some.
The fact remains they aren’t extending the same obsessive control over their boys penises. It’s a strange fixation that has always made me uncomfortable, and it seems more controlling than “sweet”.