Get over it. The only reason you are part of this discussion at all is because you are lucky enough to two far more intelligent people (catsix and strassia) on your side of it. I’ll take the time to clarify for you though: I quoted the post in its entirety. The relevance at this point in the discussion was that I had already indicated that what one says in front of children is different from an adults-only conversation. I was talking about me, not you, when I quoted myself.
Great jumping Jehoshaphat, what are we even arguing about again? As near as I can remember, this started because some, including me and a moderator, begin to feel that some of the jokes had stopped being jokes. Catsix thinks even the jokes are harmful to young girls (I can see that point, as apparently can you Scumpup). You started out arguing that because you were joking we we where ridiculous to think anyone could be serious. Shodan seems to think that it is important to make sure that his daughters dates know he is physically capable of protecting her, but denies that it has anything to do with physically protecting her. And now, half the people left in this cluster f*%$ are just argueing about who they are talking about and what caveats were missed. If I wasn’t so stubborn, I would probably leave this to die a natural death.
Scumpup, over the course of this thread, what I have really said that you disagree with? I think it comes down to in your experience, fathers don’t really act like the stereotype, and in mine they do. If that is all, then I wish you and your whole family well, hope you all have a good life, and propose we agree to disagree on how common such attitudes are.
Shodan, on the other hand, I still want to know why it is important to let your daughter’s dates know about the weightlifting and the judo.
Mainly, what I disagree with is the attitude that anybody who makes such a joke is a dreadful person who will screw up his children’s lives. All of the bitching in this thread has been more-or-less predicated on the idea that if a person makes such a joke in this thread, why, he must either really be doing those things or spouting such jokes in front of his children.
See, that is not what I have been saying. What I have been saying is two things:
It is reasonable to expect people to be offended by jokes about offensive subjects when it is hard to tell if it is a joke or serious. And, I guess, that offensive threads should be in the pit.
The attitude portrayed in the joke, which is sometimes subtle (**Shodan’**s handshake type, or repeatedly telling these jokes in the presence of the daughter in question in an ambiguous way), is counterproductive and ultimately self-serving.
If you don’t have that attitude and in no way will give your daughter the impression that you have that attitude, then I have nothing to argue with you about. It might have been an interesting discussion to talk about what these type of jokes really mean. Are they just an expression of fear of losing a child as they age into adults? If so, why do men tend to express that fear with outward fantasies of violence? That was the type of thing that I expected when I opened the thread in the first place. Not who has the right to comment on whose parenting skills.
Can we agree that these jokes might not be taken well by a daughter and that it may not be apparent to the father if that is the case?
The only suggestion I make is that you consider that when deciding if you will crack these jokes in front of your daughter when she is older. Ignore it if you wish.
Wait, where did I lecture you? I restated the points I had originally made and said that if they didn’t apply to you, then I did not mean them as critiques of you. So I will say it again:
Those were my positions: If you disagree with them, we can discuss it, if you don’t sorry for the misunderstanding.
Jonathan
ETA: If you are talking about the second part of my post where I talked about where I thought this was going, it was not a critique of you or anyone else specifically. I find the sociological aspects of humor interesting and would have enjoyed discussing this case. That’s all.
At this point, I think we’ve reached some understanding.
I apologize to catsix for my earlier flood of profanity directed at her. 5-HT is still a creepy, skeevey asshole, though.