It’s a place where people gossip about Dope threads in cowardly annonymity. It’s best left to the losers that get a kick out of such things.
I doubt it. The “other place” hosts some scintillating discourse on socks and trolls, but is mostly is just an opportunity for the SDMB’s least interesting posters to make themselves a topic of conversation for a change.
Most people who get piled on deserve it to one degree or another. Do we really need another site to clue us in when someone is an aggravating, aggressively ignorant, attention seeking imbecile, for example? Probably not.
Number 3 is why I haven’t posted, leading to your number 4. I’m afraid I also, unwittingly, often come off as an insufferable know-it-all, so this thread scares the hell out of me. It could just as easily have been about me, and I don’t like that. So I haven’t posted in Lissa’s defense, because it seemed that I might be one person she oughtn’t want on her side.
There were some posts in the past where I got a little tired of hearing about hubby. But I think **Lissa **responded remarkably well to social pressure and criticism and has reined it in admirably.
She’s not, I have to add, the only one asked to do so. Evil Captor and **lissener **have their Moderator imposed off-limit topics, that I remember off the top of my head. At least **Lissa **didn’t require the jackboots to understand the problem.
Lissa, I’ve not looked at the two year old rape thread, 'cause frankly, I just can’t bear to. I look at my own two year old and feel like throwing up, and I mean that quite literally. But if it is as outlined here, and I have no reason to believe otherwise, than I can’t see that you’ve done anything wrong there. Your posts in the last few months have been witty, fun and informative, and on a wide variety of topics which I, for one, enjoy.
Just…do cut it out with “hubby”, will ya? It’s slightly above “DH” and below avatars and blinking signature graphics on the list of irritating internet customs that set us apart from Mothering boards. 
And yes, I’ve used it myself. And I annoy myself when I do it.
Damned if I do, damned if I don’t. If I don’t adress it, it must be because I can’t and I was roundly defeated. If I do address it, it’s another example of my sins.
No, I’m not going back over there.
Then kindly stop hijacking your own thread to address the substance of that other thread. That’s nothing more than a transparent and frankly rather weaselly attempt to restate your arguments while avoiding any disagreement.
You want to talk about it some more, we can talk about it some more. You want to let it lie, then let it lie.
With all due respect, I wasn’t the one who brought it up.
But, I agree with you. This is not the place to re-hash it. It is dropped.
There is, and you are.
Some people on this board are “characters”; they post a lot and give personal information about themselves. While I wouldn’t know anything about most dopers, there are a few that most anyone who reads this board has at least a slight familiarity with. And, Lissa, you are one of these. You work in a museum and your “hubby” works in corrections, and there is no reason I should know that, but I do. And anytime you are going to stand up above the crowd and have an arrow pointed at your head, someone is going to throw rocks at you. It’s a fact of life. Maybe you never intended to be one of these representative type people, but, too bad, you are. I’m guessing here that a lot of people who have unfounded anger towards you are equating you with someone they know in real life (because even though we know a fair bit more about you than anyone else, the truth is, we still don’t know that much). Jodi seems to have a genuine beef with some things you’ve done, but hers doesn’t even seem that personal, so I think your real problem is with the people who seemingly delight in being cruel to you. And you wonder, why do they dislike me? What have I done?
Well, you probably should work on not being such a know-it-all type on certain topics, but other than that, you just need to get thicker skin. YOU, your very existence annoys some people, and they don’t like you. Take comfort in the fact that probably, it isn’t even really you they have a problem with; it’s a sister or coworker or something who somehow reminds them of you (and maybe, isn’t even like you at all). There isn’t anything you can do to get rid of this. Just remember, a lot of people probably think your wonderful, based on just as much evidence.
And, yes, there is a place where you are mocked, quite cruelly and frequently. I would say, don’t seek it out, but when I heard about it I did, and I wasn’t even a topic of discussion over there. Curiosity and the cat, as someone else said. It’s a boring place with lame jokes. I spent most of my time there poking around trying to figure out where the actual meat of the site was because I thought, “Surely, this stupidity cannot bring people back, over and over.” Well, it can I suppose. It’s a bunch of people who never tired of junior high level meanness, or perhaps were the subject of it, and are not getting their revenge. People are assholes. Sorry. I too think it’s a large part of the source of this meme. So, screw 'em.
:: shrug ::
He can’t help himself. The nastiness is bone-deep. Truth to tell, a spew like that is so over-the-top and irrelevant, it makes me giggle.
“There he goes again.” :rolleyes: 
Naw, why bother reaming him when he’s already so riddled with holes of his own making? 
It’s about as productive as arguing with a street-corner ranter.
They didn’t say that was the reason for not giving her the medication, so why are you even suggesting that was the reason?
The supervisor refused to give her the medication because of religious reasons period. That’s what she said. Not because of regulations, not because of medical approval.
Even after the fact when there was so much publicity they never brought that up. I don’t know why you still continue to do so.
Ooo - I’ve got this one!
Both catsix and I have been taken to task for our “interests.” I’ve seen catsix get slammed in lots of pit threads for talking about feminism and guns, and not only does Rubystreak have a girl-crush on me, I have socks signing up just to make fun of me. The difference between us and Lissa, IMHO, is that when those things happen, neither catsix or I start up pit threads going "Why are you guy’s being MEEEEEEAN to me?!
Obviously Lissa doesn’t need to stop posting about prison stuff based on info she got from her husband. She just needs to know that when she does it, it’s really going to annoy a bunch of other people. I know that if I say that I think I’m pretty, or that buying bras is a pain in the ass because I’m a weird size there are going to be posters who get het up about it. That’s just the way it is. I think it’s Lissa’s tone of poor, hard-done-by, the world is so mean to me, boo-hoo-ness that is so irritating.
I mean, if you’re going to be known as a poster who always talks about “X” - irrespective of if it’s true or not - I think you should own it, at the very least.
So, to sum up. Nah – I don’t need to sum up. Lissa, you’re fine. Talk about prison shit less, or use a less grating tone, or don’t get upset when people get annoyed by you, and you’ll be fine. I have to go organize my bras.
Oh, and by the way - kisses to you too Purl.
If by “having a girl-crush on you,” you mean, “thinks you’re a one-note poster sick with self-love and boring as hell, wish she’d shut the fuck up” then yeah, I have a girl-crush on you. But then, reading comprehension never was your strong suit.
You’re guilty of exactly the same behavior that you have given Lissa a hard time about. At least Lissa has the humility (yes, she has humility, and you don’t) to wonder if she’s fucking up. You just self-righteously and self-centeredly go about your business.
You’re a hypocrite. You’re boring. And you’re full of shit. I say that from the depths of my girl-crush.
Oh Poodle, you know it embarrasses me when you gush like this. Honestly, what would your fiancé say with you chasing me around, simpering at my coat-tails this way? I’ve told you, I just can’t be your girlfriend. I just don’t see you that way.
You girls need anything; saucer of milk, some catnip or a nice scratching post, maybe?
You’re right, Princess. It’s all about you. I know you wouldn’t have it any other way. Don’t reflect on your own behavior-- it might cause a tiny wrinkle in your Audrey Hepburn-esque perfect forehead.
There aren’t enough :rolleyes: s for you. Normally, I wouldn’t be able to be bothered discussing you-- after all, you have that line of conversation amply covered-- but you criticizing Lissa, considering your own posting tendencies, just could not pass without comment.
You’re a one-note poster and it’s annoying. You’re saying that to Lissa but it is just as true about you. Think about it. I know it’s not your style, but do try it. Self-improvement CAN be more than just buying a $150 bra, sweetheart, really it can.
Oh, and accusations of lesbianism to deflect criticism? So 7th grade. And so fucking retrograde, it’s hard to do anything but laugh. And pity you.
Well darling, if I bother you that much, I suggest you look into an interesting thing called the “Ignore List”. It will do wonders for your blood pressure, I’m sure.
And by the way, I find it delightfully amusing that someone you’ve never met, who went so far as to wish you well and offer words of encouragement on the announcement of your engagement, and has done nothing much other than have a positive self-esteem, can cause you so much angst. Why do you think that is, exactly? Do you really feel so badly about yourself that me feeling good about myself makes you so upset? That’s really quite…sad.
And honestly, since you keep bringing it up, Lissa has an annoying posting style. So do I. So, I might submit, do you. Big deal - not everyone likes everyone, and if Lissa wants everyone to like her, she’ll need to modify her posting style. I really don’t give a shit if ANYONE likes me, so I’ll keep my posting style the same. You can do whatever you think is best for you.
Now, the Ignore List, check it out. I think it will make you much happier. Consider it a wedding gift to yourself.
can I just add that I’d rather not be associated w/either of you?
Lissa, you know I like you and I’ve stood up for you in the past. Three things:
[ol][li]IMO, in the thread where Jodi and you had your disagreement, you were wrong and arrogant in your wrongness. [/li][li]Assholes like to find something about other people to use as ammunition in their assholeness. On the SDMB, the assholes can write things down for you to look at over and over again. Don’t give them that power over you. If someone posts something that speaks to you, learn from it. If someone posts something that you find attacking and wrong, let it go.[/li]Do not change your posting style to try to appeal to the masses. Of course you could have worded each of your posts a different way. There is no obligation for you to do so.[/ol]
You’re in exceptionally good company, my dear. Those of us who are charter-members in their topics are actually talking about T-shirts if you’re interested in one.