Female Dopers: How Do You Masturbate?

What about my welcome?

*Originally posted by Belrix:

Why yes, yes I am. But that’s for another thread. :stuck_out_tongue:

A gf of mine claimed she never masterbated either and I believe her. She was quite repressed in that area and had a strong Catholic guilt complex thing going. I’ve known male friends who claim to never masterbate and there are times when I can go quite a while and not miss it or feel the urge so I don’t see what the big deal is. I mean, it’s not the same as never doing it but still. It seems perfectly reasonable to me.

plnnr , take your pants all the way off or don’t put them around your ankles and it will be easier to maintain your balance. :smiley:

Mmm-hmm. Neither does my wife. She uses that two-foot-long battery-powered rubber snake thing to massage her feet. :slight_smile:

Do you use porn, computer or other, or it is strictly fantasy?

Depends on my mood. I read a lot of fanfic, though. :wink:
Where do you do it: bed, bath, garden?

If I’m working off of fanfic, then like Geo I’m right here at my desk. But I’m equal opportunity, so wherever is convenient.
Do you use toys, or just your fingers?

For reasons a bit too lengthy to get into here, I’ve switched from fingers to a really nice back massager (no, it really IS a back massager… I bought it at Wal-Mart, and it specifically says not to use it… down there).

How often do you do it, and will you make love to your partner the same day?

Depends. Sometimes a couple times a day, sometimes not at all. There was a lengthy period where I didn’t at all. And yeah, I’ll have sex afterward.

Is it part of your shared sex life, or strictly a by-yourself thing?

If Mr. Kitty asks, I’ll share. Mostly it’s a by myself thing, 'cause it’s usually spontaneous.

Do you use porn, computer or other, or it is strictly fantasy?
Mostly fantasy, erotica on occasion to get me warmed up(either on-line or a book).

**Where do you do it: bed, bath, garden? **
Mostly bed, sometimes couch, sometimes bathtub, sometimes shower.

**Do you use toys, or just your fingers? **
Both, sometimes at the same time.

How often do you do it
Not as often as I used to, as I’ve been a bit depressed due to some personal problems the last few months. Used to be a couple of times a week minimum, quite a bit less now
** and will you make love to your partner the same day? **
Yeppers

**Is it part of your shared sex life, or strictly a by-yourself thing? **
Both.

Do you use porn, computer or other, or it is strictly fantasy?
All of the above

Where do you do it: bed, bath, garden?
In my car, when stuck in a traffic jam; or with hubby

Do you use toys, or just your fingers?
both hands

How often do you do it, and will you make love to your partner the same day?
Once or twice - and YES to the second question

Is it part of your shared sex life, or strictly a by-yourself thing?
Both, both, both

im2evil4u- If you ever need to carpool…

What?–mainly use the computer for erotica, rarely visual stuff, because it takes me waaay longer than a good tight story will.

Where?–see above

Toys?–not usually

How Often?–weekly? sometimes I’ll hit a spurt [sub](hahaha…ow, stop hitting me)[/sub] and go daily. Neither pace interferes with partner-sex.

Shared?–no. I actually like to watch guys masturbate. But there are some things I prefer to keep to myself. This is one of them.

If you don’t mind me asking, essvee, how old is your wife?
I ask only because I didn’t “discover” masturbation until I was 23 years old. Until then, I’d never really tried, or had any interest in doing so. I always thought that was late, but When-abouts did everyone else start?

I didn’t masturbate until I was about 22. Fingers mostly.

I discovered the joys of masturbation very early, like around 5 or 6. Somehow, I found that getting myself positioned underneath the bathtub faucet resulted in some very pleasant sensations. I spent a lot of time in the tub after that.

I’m not a female doper, so I can’t help you, but I will point out that at the moment in IMHO, the following consecutive thread titles can be seen:

Female Dopers: How Do You Masturbate?

Do you like animals?

Are you naked?

How safe is flying really?
Maybe the hamsters are frisky tonite?

Here’s a question. Do you find you want sex less after you masturbate? This thread had me thinking that maybe I’ll get a good erotica book for my wife, but then it occured to me that she may not ahem need me as much. So ladies, many have mentioned that you will have sex during the same day, but do you have as much of an urge to after masturbating that same day?

Sooner than later, I’m afraid we’re going to see:

“Female Dopers: How Do You Menstruate?”

Then I’ll fully support subscription.

Jdeforrest, don’t worry, I believe that many other women feel the same way I do, that there is no substitute for the real thing.

That’s a good question to throw in the mix, bella. She’s 32. Thanks again for the honest feedback from all.

I wasn’t taking a poll, and I not going to post results. And I’m not passing judgment on my wife. I have noticed the responses are running heavily in favor of enthusiatic participants.

I guess the original question came from somebody’s quote, I forget who, which goes, “99% of all men masturbate, and the other 1% are liars.” Wondering if that applied to women as well.

Do you use porn, computer or other, or it is strictly fantasy?

  • Erotica mostly. Or fantasy…lately there’s this one I have about Lara Flynn Boyle…

Where do you do it: bed, bath, garden?

  • Bed. Or at my desk. Or on the train. Or in the boardroom during loooong meetings.

Do you use toys, or just your fingers?

  • Neither. Clenching does it for me. And soft pillows. I can’t do the fingers thing. Only my partner can get me off that way. Strange.

How often do you do it, and will you make love to your partner the same day?

  • Depends on the time of the month. There are ‘friskier’ days where I can’t think of anything else, and days when it’s the last thing on my mind. Yes to the same day question.

Is it part of your shared sex life, or strictly a by-yourself thing?

  • My partner knows I masturbate and she’s perfectly ok with it. I sometimes do it when we’re in bed together. She finds it fascinating.

I’ve shared too much haven’t I?

  • mianly fantasy

*bed, bath, in the car, at work,

*both – depends on where i am

*whenever i am in the mood – sometimes daily , and sometimes
not for days at a time

*sometimes shared, mostly when i am alone – if hubby is around
its usually gonna lead to something else

there are two kinds of liars - those who say they dont, and those who say they quit

I opened this thread in hopes of learning something new… alas…

ahem.

Anyway…

Do you use porn, computer or other, or it is strictly fantasy?
pretty much strictly fantasy. Occasionally porn.

Where do you do it: bed, bath, garden?
Generally in the bathroom, where I can get away from my pets. But wherever the mood strikes, assuming it’s in a safe and private location.

Do you use toys, or just your fingers?
Whatever’s handy when the mood strikes.

How often do you do it, and will you make love to your partner the same day?
Roughly about once a week, more if I have a partner. And if I had a partner, that wouldn’t slow me down at all.

Is it part of your shared sex life, or strictly a by-yourself thing?
I’d say a strictly by myself thing. I’m in the camp where some things can be shared. Masturbating and pooping, (not at the same time), I prefer to keep to myself.
Here’s what I wanna know: Where do all of you who masturbate at work, work? Can I get a job there?

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