Thanks, Cosmo. Maybe I should add that the reason I’m asking is not prurience (mostly). My wife doesn’t masturbate, never has, and states she has zero desire to do it. I wanted to see how that would gibe with the Doper experience.
Well, in that case maybe you just should’ve asked if female dopers masturbate. The fact that you want details makes it hard not to imagine you with your pants around your ankles while you read this thread.
I’ve tried masturbating, and maybe it’s just that I’m not all that good at it yet, but it isn’t as interesting as my SO doing it for me. I prefer the intimacy with him than just pure physical sensation. That being said, if I actually tried it more often and got good at it, who knows, maybe I’d think differently.
*Do you use porn, computer or other, or it is strictly fantasy? *
Sometimes one or the other, or both. Just depends on my mood.
*Where do you do it: bed, bath, garden? *
Eh, whatever. . . If the urge strikes and I’m in a safe place to do it, I do it.
*Do you use toys, or just your fingers? *
Sometimes toys, sometimes just fingers, sometimes both.
*How often do you do it, and will you make love to your partner the same day? *
Sometimes once a day, sometimes more - Again, just depends on my mood. I’d guess that it averages out to about once a day. If I had a partner, it would not affect when/how often we had intercourse.
*Is it part of your shared sex life, or strictly a by-yourself thing? *
It would probably be part of my shared sex life if I had a partner.
I’m not sure if you mean this to sound as inflammatory as it does to me, but I don’t personally think he’s asking for details in the sense that you seem to be saying he is. It’s not like he asked for people to write a description of the act or anything.
Jomo, I appreciate the feedback. I am a little surprised, considering the topics that have been explored here, that some folks think the topic is inappropriate, buy again, I can see how it might be viewed in that way.
I wish to assure people that this is a subject I’ve been wondering about; I gave some of the context above; and it truly did not occur to me that some posters might think I was behaving voyeuristically. I mean, I’ve got the whole wide Web if I wanted to get off about women masturbating…
Thanks to Cosmo, Siva, and Jessica for their answers.
There’s actually a lot of literature on this subject. Just go to Amazon.com and enter the word “masturbation.” You’ll probably get views from many women, clinicians, etc., through the books. I think some people change their habits and interests over time. Maybe the wife will…
Oh for cripes sake, people, it’s not like we haven’t had about a thousand threads on the same or similar subjects, and yes, sometimes it is titillating, but so what? Nobody is being forced to share, and the query did come out of genuine curiosity.
Do you use porn, computer or other, or it is strictly fantasy?
All of the above, what I require or desire at any particular time depends on my mood.
Where do you do it: bed, bath, garden?
Mostly in bed, but I’ve done it right here at my desk, or in the bathroom, or on the couch, or…
Do you use toys, or just your fingers?
Depends on how I’m feeling at the moment. I have a pretty good toy collection, but sometimes fingers are all I need.
How often do you do it, and will you make love to your partner the same day?
Not as often now that we are together all the time as when we were still long-distance, but every now and then the mood strikes. He really enjoys hearing about it, so that frequently inspires some action.
Is it part of your shared sex life, or strictly a by-yourself thing?