If you could find your Ms./Mr. Right in your Christmas stocking or Hanukah hamper what would she/he be like?
Can you describe a perfect day that you and she/he would share? Include all the details about how you both feel together and how you respond to each other, what you talk about, etc? Don't worry about picturing what she physically looks like. Remember that she's/he's still under wraps inside your holiday gift box.
Put on your favorite music and enjoy the fantasy, even write about it if you like. This is your private time to imagine all the wonderful moments you are about share together. Edit out the critical and cynical voices in your head. This is your private world. Only positive expressions are allowed.
Everyone who wants to meet Ms. or Mr. Right in 2004 should be doing this. Olympic athletes, astronauts and inventors use visualization to achieve their objectives. Seeing, believing and visualizing that your goal is already accomplished is the best way to make it happen. Let the words of your friends get lost in the wind. People forget how much effort and heartache it takes to find true love.
I was listening to some music in the car the other day and the lyrics said something like this: "If you don't like who you are, then change your mind." Changing your mindset is the key you are seeking to dealing with loneliness.
If you make only one New Year's resolution this year, make it to see in your mind the world that you and your special loved one will share.
