I lurk a great deal, but don’t usually post here. However, I’ve seen that there are a lot of very level-headed people here, and I’m in need of some level-headedness.
My husband and I own a condo. We weren’t able to sell it this past spring, so we decided to rent it out. We are currently living in another state, but my sister lives relatively near the condo and offered to look after it (we’re paying her a small amount, really small compared to anything we’d pay a company to look after the place). The apartment is in a basement and was left vacant (and therefore closed up) during the summer. This was our first mistake. Also, the drain outside the apartment has not been cleaned regularly because we usually do this ourselves and didn’t think to ask my sister to do it. That was our second mistake.
We had a tenant move in on Aug. 1. Both he and my sister had checked out the apartment multiple times with no problems. (He stopped by twice to look around before signing the lease, my sister also stopped by once before he moved in.) However, within days of him moving in there were all sorts of problems. At first the issues were minor, but the daily e-mails with new things being wrong were getting really stressful. Then the tenant e-mailed me about a hole in the wall with possible mold damage. I immediately called a mold inspector, had them come by as soon as possible, and confirmed the presence of mold. The tenant and I agreed it would be best if he moved out as the air quality was compromised. So I gave back the rent and security deposit, and he agreed to move out as soon as he could find a new place. The mold report alone was bad enough - we’re going to have to spend several thousand dollars removing the mold and waterproofing the basement, and this won’t happen on a timescale to get another renter by Sept. 1. I was already severely depressed about this - we’re now paying mortgage on condo + rent on current home + mold removal and repair. That’s enough to use up all our available savings right there.
Well, this morning, the tenant had scheduled the movers to come by to move the rest of his stuff. However, due to torrential downpours last night, the apartment had flooded. I know exactly why this happened - the drains outside the apartment needed to be cleared. We were going to do that this weekend, as we were planning to visit the condo anyway to look at the mold issue and start calling mold removal companies. However, apparently we were exactly 3 days too late. Apparently the entire apartment flooded, damaging his belongings, including electronics and several law books. While on the phone with my sister, he threatened to sue us for damages. I hadn’t been able to reach him up to that point, so I decided to just e-mail him and say we would pay for whatever wasn’t covered by the rental insurance. Since it’s looking like rental insurance won’t cover anything, we’ll probably have thousands in damages that we have to cover. I am responsible for the flooding and want to pay the damages, but having this on top of the mold issue makes me want to cry.
At this point, after nearly two weeks of dealing with daily e-mails with one crisis after another with this tenant, I am near my breaking point. I just want him gone, I want to never hear from him again. I hate confrontations, no matter how civil they might be, and at this point we’ve had several. More than that, I hate myself for what’s happened to the property. I am angry with myself for being so ignorant about what vacancy can do to a place. This all would have been so preventable - install a dehumidifier to prevent mold problems during the summer months, and make sure the drains are regularly cleaned. That’s all we needed to do.
And not that it’s really relevant, but I have several other worries on my mind at the moment. I am 7 months pregnant with a baby who has a congenital heart defect and will likely need surgery right after he’s born. I will quit my job at the end of October, thereby removing my pitiful but still significant income, and before I quit my job, I am trying to finish a major project that has had me working 12-hour days every day for the past few weeks. My husband’s doing the same because his company has been ridiculous about saddling him with one project after another - he has literally not been sleeping in order to get everything done. Which of course means that everything condo-related has fallen on me to deal with. I honestly just feel like I can’t handle the stress. I am shaking, very nearly crying, and writing book-length posts on SD while at work when I should be working on my project. There’s just nothing I can do right now, and it’s driving me crazy. Can’t work on the condo, because we won’t be there til this weekend. Am waiting for tenant to contact me to report the total damages, but that won’t happen until tomorrow probably. Can’t work on my project because I can’t concentrate. And can’t go home and cry because I think it’ll just make me feel worse.
Any advice, reassurance, anything at all would be much appreciated. Except recrimination - trust me, I’ve got that one covered.