No, she’s not like that. I’m not saying she’s perfect, but she isn’t a stupid or irresponsible person. Plus, her husband lets her shop as much as she wants for other stuff.
I guess I’m a weirdo because I really enjoy grocery shopping.
I’ll make a suggestion to my friend to try a certain kind of food or brand I’ve discovered, and she’ll say something, “I’ll have to sneak to the store and find a hiding place for it, so Hubby doesn’t see I went to the store! LOL.” This is so over-the-top wrong to me that I think she has to be exaggerating. Like, how is this even funny?
It sounds to me like she’s joking. Is he also doing the cooking? I can see not wanting her bringing home food that he doesn’t know about if he’s the one doing all the cooking. Here, honey, I’ve heard that durian is really good!
Yes, he does the bulk of the cooking for dinner. But she still has to make her own breakfast and lunch. Surely she should be able to buy stuff she wants for the meals he’s not responsible for.
You may be right that she’s joking, but I guess I don’t understand why someone would joke like this. It’s not just her husband that she paints in a bad light with these stories. But she always comes out looking like a spineless doormat.
If she’s been married for 30 years, that was kind of how we grew up. Look at the comic strips like “The Lockhorns”, TV shows like “Married, with Children” , and movies like “The Secret Life of Walter Mitty”. There was a lot of comedy about people in being stuck in miserable marriages. Sometimes, like in “Bewitched”, the show would be treating the couple as happily married, but you could tell from the interactions that there was an underlying abusive/passive aggressive relationship.
I’m often the sounding board for men and women because I’m generally easy going. I always make sure to comment or end our conversation with: “You should be telling this to him/her” and “I’m glad you feel you can share this with me, but I recommend you seek spiritual or professional help, as I can just give you my personal opinion”.
Also, keep in mind that there’s always two sides of the story. The OP’s friend’s husband may or may not be exactly like portrayed. As has been mentioned, there must be something good between the two of them to stay together for 30 years. My ex’s parents were like those TV couples you see, always ragging and complaining about each other, but you knew they really loved each other.