A few days ago Jr. took his skateboard and knocked someone’s mailbox off the post, then was seen by the police doing the same thing a few minutes later.
Background: Sr. is a single father. The boy’s mother took off, whereabouts unknown. He receives no support, and her family is minimally involved. He has little family, and their involvement is also minimal
He is economically and socially challenged, and often an asshole. But I give him credit for taking care of his kid. He tries to do all the right things, but I’ve seen his relationship with his son deteriorating in recent years. He barks orders at the kid, and doesn’t listen well. I’ve tried to relate to the kid myself but he’s a typical teenage boy, shy and unresponsive, and I can tell he’s mad at the world.
So can someone explain the acting out part to me? In analogous circumstances as a teenager I wasn’t into destruction and violence, so I’m not sure what it’s all about, except for the obvious emotional release. Is there anything I can suggest to my friend? He’s a jerk a lot, but it’s mainly out of ignorance, and I think he can learn some new tricks. He doesn’t have the means for private counseling and the like, so he would have to rely on state programs, which he’s been doing for a long time, so I think that’s losing effectiveness.
Thank you all in advance for your advice, because I’m inconsiderate and may forget to do that later.