The title of your thread doesn’t match the content of your OP. I’m not seeing any worthwhile friendships there, before or after people made it clear who they favored in this election.
As for me, my husband and I have been dear friends for over 30 yeasr with one couple who said, months ago, that they were voting for Trump. I briefly and calmly explained why I thought that was a poor choice, based on the stupid Trump comment du jour, and dropped the subject before it could get heated.
They are thousands of miles away so we are only in sporadic contact via email. I am dying to ask, “so, in light of all the outrageous statements Trump has made since we last talked about this, are you STILL planning to vote for him?”
But I’m afraid to do so. If they say “yes,” I will never be able to respect them again, and that would be a tremendous loss because they have been exceptional friends over the years. Better not to know, and to secretly believe that they must have changed their minds, than to risk the friendship.
You called it. Cousin continued it, having gone after a SIL. He gone. Another dead, Bye, without the benefit of snark. No 3, well, over 40 years how many have I given her? My current Massive Crush (I never moved past being 15), knows and will slap me if I try anything, at my request. And we agree, reducing the chance of slappage a week or so.
I haven’t dumped any friends over any preferences for Trump they may have, but should he (Og forbid) get elected, and should he start acting on some of his…authoritarian…tendencies, and should said friends actually come out in support of that sort of thing, we’re done.
I haven’t unfriended anybody on FB, because I don’t like to walk away when I’m right. (And yes, I’m right. ) But one person in particular is testing my patience.
We’ve known each other since we were four… and that’s a long time. When we were little, I’d tell on him for telling lies. His grandmother would say, ‘Oh, he’s mistaken,’ or ‘He’s not lying. He’s just telling a little fib.’ We lost touch for a while. When I let him stay with me for a year, I saw how this deflection of responsibility played out. I won’t go into details, but he presents all of the symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder. (IANAP.) He’s become a Trump-supporting Tea Partier, and his FB posts are repetitions of falsehoods that have been debunked many times over. When I point out to him that his shared claims are false, and provide reputable citations to prove it, he ignores me and keeps posting the same bullshit. And his followers weigh in, displaying a profound lack of critical thinking and debating skills. (Rather than debate, they just [del]fling poo[/del] hurl insults.)
I blocked my friend’s email address years ago for not removing me from his mailing list, to which he sent racist ‘jokes’, anti-Obama screeds, glurge, etc., etc., etc. I warned him several times I would block him if he did not remove me from his mailing list. He’d respond occasionally, but would not remove me. So I blocked him. He can call me on the land-line, or reach me through Facebook.
But the crap he posts on FB and his followers’ comments are starting to piss me off. I don’t really want it showing up on my feed. Were it not that I’d see unfriending him as a personal failure on my part, he would have been gone.
The only thing at risk is my relationship with my FIL and others who have stated they will vote third party rather than for either candidate. I have no patience for that. None. Man/Woman up and vote. You are not making a meaningful statement about your disdain for anyone. You are ceding your vote to the ether. Congrats. They are on notice that any resulting cluster fuck is on them and I intend to tell them so ad infinitum should the worst come to pass. Holidays should be a hoot.
The one friend who’s voting Drumpf is pretty low-key, all things considered. I suspect it won’t be a problem after tomorrow. And I unfollowed all my relatives who would have sent me Trump stuff a long time ago over all the previous hatefully righteous material they posted. So, not much breaking up over politics for me this time.
I haven’t un-friended anyone although I think one guy might have dropped me. He was one of the “Bernie should have won, the DNC rigged everything, closed primaries are proof the system is rigged” people who couldn’t accept that Sanders lost. He was pretty rabid with the shared “DNC is corrupt” memes and stuff for a while and sometimes we’d argue about something but I haven’t seen him post in a month or two. Maybe he just took a sabbatical from Facebook – I haven’t checked my friends list to see.
Last presidential election. Let’s just say I was disappointed at the results and two of my friends decided to nastily gloat. I had other friends who were happy at the results and were much more gracious. So buh-bye to the gloaters and I keep the other ones around to keep me out of the fishbowl.