I ran across an article awhile ago that listed some dating sites and apps that were tailored to address the concerns that confront women on sites like match.com. I remember there was one that only allowed women to initiate the first contact.
I can’t find that article, but the app appears to be Bumble, created by one of the co-founders of Tinder.
They probably want to confirm mutual attraction before sending an actual message.
So, Op here.
I’ve taken two days off from POF and have dozens of messages to peruse.
Most of them are “Wants to Meet You” but some seem to have actual MESSAGES!
Stay tuned. (Like you care :()
Ridicule and derision is our way of saying we care.
Best of luck.
POF is so much better than OKC
I’m suddenly not sure how this works.
I don’t know what to click of for … anything basically. Did you message me? Did you want o meet me?
God…
I hope it works out. If it does I may try that site myself.
I just hid my profile.
Done for now. Can’t do it. Too low caliber, and believe me, I am not a snob by ANY stretch of the imagination.
My current partner and I met on POF. Later I realized we were sitting across from each other in the library the day I gave him my phone number in order to get him to leave me alone, as I was trying to talk to someone else. This was in 2007. It hasn’t been all sunshine lollipops and rainbows, but somehow we have made it work for over 8 years.
I met my previous partner on POF too. But POF is a numbers game. I am a bit “nicer” than some, (so friends tell me) I replied to basically anyone who didn’t send a dicK pic or similar verbal pick up line. I kept my picture off line. (8 years ago not every person had a phone with a camera.)
I don’t know what other advice to give. POF isn’t impossible. But it is work.
As a “victim” of many online dating sites let me extend my thanks for you having some class about the whole thing.
Of course they do. Women like attractive partners, too. And not every contact on a dating site is necessarily meant to lead to a life partnership.
And that upsets me.
I’m just (honestly!) a regular guy looking for a date.
I suppose Ted Bundy said the same thing.
OK. Heart on sleeve… here I am on Facebook. I hope this works, maybe my security settings can’t let you see me: beats me.
I have nothing to hide.
You are adorable, and we do so care! 
Awww…there’s a picture of my friend!
There’s that. Many of us also learned early on that your financial status doesn’t say much about any of the really important stuff: how much your personality, goals, interests, and sexuality are compatible with ours. (Granted, looks don’t say much either, but dating someone you find physically unattractive is a non-starter.)
I am not sure if you are joking or not. I replied… yes I had a standard cut and paste response to anyone who said Hi. It was a few sentences and a few quirky questions with my own answers. (What’s your favourite pizza toppings, when you were 5 what did you want to be when grew up, last thing that made you laugh really hard)
If all I got was one or two word answers or something illiterate then I would send a “thank you, I don’t think we are compatible”. Or the fellow wouldn’t reply. Those who replied generally were interesting people and we would converse further or not. I went on a few dates. I had a year and a half relationship and my current 8 year one.
I was a single parent at the time and it was a way to screen out idiots and non conversationalists. I am not sure if I would go the POF route again if I became single. I met a few rude people and one person who actually scared me. But in general it can work.
Just curious. What can you see on my profile and what can’t you see. I’m not savvy in this stuff.
RSVP.
Thanks.
I can see your main photo and when you updated it, including the one that was upside down!
I’ve spent years on and off online dating. Things really turned around when I turned 40 though, I guess that’s supposed to mean I’m mature or something like that.
Sorry if I wasn’t clear.
I honestly meant “thank you”.
If I actually bothered to send some woman a personalized response to her “ad” and she responded back in ANY way (well not fuck you 
) that meant a lot.
If you did that, good on you for being someone with some class.
Well, I don’t have a Facebook account, so all I get is your name and picture.