Well I’m not dumb but I can’t understand
when it got so fucking difficult to be a white man
The only thing my husband really doesn’t do is cook. Take that back…he grills. As long as I prep everything, he doesn’t mind grilling the whole meal. I normally cook and clean the dishes. We each do our own laundry. I’m a student and he is the earner right now. Even so, he dusts, vacuums, does the yardwork and fixes that what got broke. I take care of paying the bills, and making appointments for things. In my opinion, he pulls the majority of the weight in the running of the house.
I’m a single guy with female roommates. I do the majority of the cooking and cleaning, and 50% of the pet stuff. My roommates refer to me as “The House Bitch”
“trained proper”? Oh, hell, no. All growed up and able to take care of himself.
While I voted myself “domesticated” I don’t get to showcase many of these talents at our current location. We have a guy who takes care of the lawn duties and a housekeeper that keeps the inside spotless. Any repairs are addressed by phone or e-mail to the company services manager. We get one shipment each year of goods from the US, which we put together ( thank you Costco ) on one of our R&R trips. A driver takes me to work and either of us shopping for other household items as needed. He also keeps the car spotless. About the only things left are cooking and laundry, both of which I am able to perform reasonably well.
It made me cringe, if it makes you feel any better.
I cook, clean, do childcare and work a full time job.
And I find the thread title offensive. For what it’s worth.
I’m single and I won’t allow a man to live with me unless I’ve seen his place and deemed it sanitary. My current Friend also lives by himself and his house is generally cleaner than mine. I’ve seen him dust and sweep the floors by opening the front and back doors and running a leaf blower through the house, but hey. No dust and dog fur, it’s fast, it’s simple, and he gets to use a loud phallus-shaped power tool. I don’t really care how it gets done; what I care about is the fact that he takes pride in his home and likes to keep it clean.
So I would view any man who does household chores as a civilized grownup who A) knows how to and wants to take care of himself and his home and B) understands about why it’s important to pull one’s own weight.
Come to think of it, I know several single men who think nothing of cooking their own meals, doing their own laundry, dusting, sweeping, mopping, and scrubbing their own homes. If single men can take care of their homes all by themselves without being badgered by their mommies or other women, then why shouldn’t married or partnered men be expected to do the same?
If being fully domesticated means staying home and not working, then no it’s not for me and never would be. But I have no less respect for a man who does that than one who works a “normal” job. I just couldn’t do it. For me, sharing household chores works best.
I didn’t think the title was offensive - a just a common joke - but I found lots of the options offensive. There’s also the whiff of the assumption that a man’s main worth is as a wage earner.
Where’s the option, “That’s so not my sweetie, but what the hell, he’s cute and funny”?
I call one of those Middlebro in these forums. The Other Bro is only semidomesticated: he knows how to do housework but he will do it only if it’s been made clear he has to, and he’d rather pay a cleaning lady. But I know a lot of women who’d rather pay a cleaning lady - cleaning ladies need jobs too!
A friend of mine was able to coax his way into a flat he liked but where the current roomies wanted a female roomie by saying he would not do any cleaning other than in his room but he’d make sure there would always be ready-to-eat food. We called the place Dave’s Harem. His mother’s mild OCD reflects in constant cleaning and things like having to organize any objects in a perceft geometric fashion… Dave was dying to get some disorganization in his life.
I was the oldest of 5 latch-key kids in the late 70’s and early 80’s. Cleaning, doing your own laundry, washing dishes, mowing the lawn even helping with dinner were called chores back then. It was pulling your own weight in a struggling family.
Now get off my lawn you little pin head.
To be honest I wish she’d let me do more household work. I like my way of doing some of it a lot better than hers…