I work a lot with kids.
The question is not whether this is fair, but rather what has caused our kids not to play fair? Why haven’t we taught our kids to respect the smaller one, the weaker one, and give them a turn?
I look at my mom’s grade one class. They play tag. They’re fair. They give little Pheobe, who is not the fastest on her feet athletically (and who is a tiny little peanut) her chance. All the time. They are concerned about how the other kids feel.
Then, by the time they hit grade 4, they seem to forget this “play fair” skill. WHY? What are we teaching them along the way that changes that?
One answer may be found in talking to the kids themselves. I have a drama class that is made up of grade 4 to grade 6 age kids. From listening to them, I found that they’ve been drilled into believing that their “self-esteem” comes first, that THEY come first, no matter what, and no matter who tells them otherwise.
We’ve taugth them to be such individuals that, along the way, they forget how to be compassionate. We’ve taught them that they are allowed to their opinion, and that it’s always right because it’s theirs. We’ve taught them to answer back, we’ve taught them to be brash and over-confident, we’ve taught them to negociate their way out of ANYTHING, including consequences for their actions.
It’s scary.
So in the end - we have to wonder - what did this principal do? She probably tried to avoid having kids being sent in for being bullies, avoid having kids crying after recess because “billy is always mean to me”… and she’s not the first to impose a partial-ban like that. A few years back, our local schools here banned Pokemon cards from the school grounds. Kids would play against bigger kids, lose, and cry or be upset… and then the PARENTS get involved because their little darlings were hurt… :smack:
Yeah.
With all the lawsuits everywhere, who knows if someone’s little darling won’t be hurt (physically or mentally!) by a game of tag… and who ends up in a mess for not preventing it from happening? The school. The principal. The teachers. Ask any teacher: you don’t always fear the kids will be hurt. You usually fear the reaction of the PARENT. Their little darlings can do NO WRONG. EVER. And if they have the money, they’ll sue. Or threaten to. As an educator, you have other fish to fry.
It all goes back to my statements on how we are raising our kids - if someone does something to you, don’t worry, mom will defend your rights, even if that means we sue everyone for discrimination, disrupt the lives of many other people… all that doesn’t matter because you come first, honey!
Elly.