I can’t imagine hugging a non-family member, and especailly not an unknown child.
Why could this possibly be a thing?
I coached youth sports for over 10 years, 2 seasons a year, and often two teams a season.
The FIRST thing (well, two things) they taught us in coaching classes for certification (which, sadly, 90% of the youth coaches didn’t bother with) was (1) never be alone with one of your players, and (2) never ever ever touch one of your players. It sounds creepy, but it is good advice–just for what things look like to other team’s parents.
Mind, I would routinely walk out on the pitch at the half and at the end of the game and low-five players coming off the field and tell them what a good job they did, and (this is entirely sexist because I would only do it with female players), tap a female player on the top of the head and say “outstanding”.
Now, I had players that I had know for 5 years or more, been to their houses on social occasions, knew their parents well, and given a ton of rides to matches, that would touch me, but everyone understood the the reverse would be wrong.
How does anyone think touching a child (leaving out incidental contact here–things happen, not to mention a child climbing into your lap of their own volition), related or not, in a situation where they did not initiate the contact, is acceptable?
I know family is different, and we are supposed to be close, but I am still having a difficult time grasping this.
Yes, you can open your arms and leave them the choice–nothing wrong there.
My nieces hug me when we see each other (once a year or less), and it is the most awkward thing ever.
I like, try to hug with the least contact possible, because I don’t want to be the “creepy uncle”.