I’ve been smoking it for about 7 years now and I’m 24. I’ve thought of every reason to stop but nothing seems to work.
Believe me,
It’s a huge drain on my money. Along with alcohol, it’s one of my biggest expenses.
My health. Goes without saying.
It’s illegal, and the possibility to get caught is there quite often. If I got caught, it could end up ruining my life.
My parents are disgusted by me because I’m such a stoner. It’s a major source of stress between us. What’s worst, is after they pass, I think it might turn out to be yet another huge regret.
Lastly, it’s probably one of the main contributing reasons for my laziness, apathy, and stupidity. It has had a hand in many fuck-ups in my life.
Yet I still use it and I don’t know why. Sometimes it is actually fun and it helps me see clearly, but those times are few and far between. More often than not, it’s just a huge waste.
The fact that I’m such a fiend about is probably what’s worst too. I can quit, sometimes for a few days, sometimes longer (if I have too) but I always go back to it. I grew up doing it, lots of my friends do it and it’s easy to get.
Overall, the need to do it is what usually gets me. When I find myself with an opportunity to get some I take it. And usually afterwards I feel guilty about it.
Nothing seems to work for me so I guess this is a plea for help. How do you quit something like this?
It sounds like you already have plenty of reasons, you just want to know how. As a former fiend who has been there, I can say that I did it just by making up my mind and doing it (the impetus was becoming a parent). It only really sucks for a couple of weeks, then you can live without it. The problem after that is that, even though you aren’t fiending or it anymore, it still sounds good to you, and if you’re around it or get your hands on it, you’ll do it (and if you’re lie me, you’ll do it until it’s gone. I tried to get bags for “occasional use” once in a while, but it didn’t work. If I had it, I would smoke it). The only thing that helped me in that regard was cutting myself off from being around it, or hanging out with people who smoked it.
It’s not like it’s heroin, though. If you relapse once in a while, so what?
When you are high on weed it is completely fucking obvious to most people. My brother used to think he could smoke up with friends then come home and no-one would know.
Au contraire. One look at his eyes and … hellooooo Captain Space Cadet.
Scotty Mo, life is short. And, as Ordell Robbie would tell you, weed will eventually rob you of your ambition. You’re 24, so being “that stoner guy” is not cool any more. If you are still sitting around the house getting high all day when you are 30, it will be pathetic and you will have missed your chance to make something of yourself.
There’s a difference between someone who smokes weed occasionally, and someone who routinely blows off a whole day getting baked and doing little else. From the OP it seems he was more the latter.
Making your way in the world is harder now than it was 20 years ago (ISTM) and if you want to be successful and you weren’t born with a silver spoon, sitting around all day smoking week is not the way to go.
Sure, he probably knows this, but hes asking for re-inforcement and I’m giving it to him. Didn’t mean to put anyone’s nose out of joint.
Your problem isn’t pot, it’s apathy and general lack of drive. Yeah, pot is magnifying the issue, but it’s not the cause.
Quit the pot, it might be temporary and it might be permanent, but quit it. Then, examine your life, and do one thing, one SMALL thing, that you’ve wanted to do for a while (something productive or exciting, whether its cleaning your room or skydiving). That excitement you felt, after it’s done? That’s a feeling of unadaulterated accomplishment, and its a drug in it’s own right. Work yourself into bugger things, something huge (like a remodel of your house) is overwhelming and you won’t get it all done before you quit.
It won’t replace pot, but it’s a new high that’s intoxicating in it’s own right. And, in time, you’ll learn to enjoy it for what it is – maybe alone, and maybe high, either way it’s something you should definitely try.
Fwiw, I’m 20 and still smoke, but and when I was younger I was undriven, lazy and a stoner. Now, one out of three ain’t bad
Well, I think you should get a job where they do random drug tests. Then, you will be motivated to not smoke, because you will get fired if you test positive.
Oh - but you can’t pass the initial drug test? Hmm - what to do, what to do?
You sound like you’re depressed, and excessive pot smoking is just a symptom/way of medicating. Counseling.
Have you ever been to an NA meeting? You don’t have to be a heroin addict to benefit from support from a group of people who also have issues with abusing substances. I know NA doesn’t have a big following here on the SD, but I know so many people who participate (everyone at one of my jobs is a long-time member) and feel it has helped them to stay clean and build a better life for themselves.
I say you’re abusing it because it’s effecting your life in many negative ways. I went through my own stoner stage, but it was never like what you describe (creating friction in my personal relationships, making me unable to pursue what I wanted), and when I decided to stop smoking weed multiple times per day, I just stopped.
If the fun times are few and far between, then you need to cut way down. Make it special, a reward for getting your shit together, maybe once every few months the same way some people unwind with a drink on Friday or at the occasional party but would never get drunk every day (and no I would never give this advice for any other drug).
How much of your lifestyle is connceted with pot? Because the more it’s entwined in your life, the harder it’s going to be to quit. You’re going to need to make some tough decisions.
If all your friends smoke pot and it’s a large part of what you do when you’re with them, then you’re going to need to find yourself some new friends.
How much do you smoke alone? What is it that you’re seeking when you decide to partake? Are you stressed and wanting to relax? Or are you bored and wanting a diversion?
You need to understand the why’s before you come up with alternate ways of living your life pot-free.
Despite the title, the OP indicates that the “why” is fairly obvious and it’s the “how” that is the hard part.
In the absence of sufficient personal will, are there any relevant support groups in your area you could join? Would one of your parents or a non-partaking friend go with you for support?
Good luck!