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WhyNot,
I do not think, it will answer their query, you are sort of evading the issue !
or
are you saying that , keep it vague and let them figure out , when they grow up !
would like to hear from parents who had to face this situation !!
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Yes both. And neither! I don’t think it’s vague at all. I, personally, believe in the Divine *and *the Big Bang, as do a great many scientists I know. I think God/dess works *through *evolution, not instead of it.
In this area, I’m more interested in what my kids think than indoctrinating them with what I think. While I am religious, I’m not of a religion that thinks we have any exclusive Truth or that we’re the only Right or Righteous people. As a result, I don’t have to “save” them. I’m willing to discuss my ideas with them (for example, that there is a Divine Force that works through natural laws), but I’m not willing to tell them that I’m absolutely certain I’m right. I don’t *know *if I’m right. What I say and believe works for me, but it may not work for them. I’m willing to help them sort out what they believe, to do more research if they don’t know enough to formulate beliefs, and to support them in whatever path they choose - religious or not, conservative or not.
My son is 15, and started asking these sorts of questions when he was about 5. Sometimes he wanted the scientific answers and sometimes the religious ones. Sometimes he wanted to hear, “Squirrels have bushy tails as a sign of good nutrition. A female squirrel will see a nice full tail and think that would be a good daddy for her babies because he knows where lots of food is.” Sometimes he wanted to hear, “Squirrels have big bushy tails because God thought they needed something to separate them from the rats!” I’m happy to provide both, and I follow his lead as to which one to emphasize based on his state of mind at the time. Now that he’s older, he has some really interesting thoughts to share with me on the nature of souls and God, although he’s not active in my religious group right now.
My daughter is 3, and hasn’t started asking yet. She likes to help light candles with me to pray for sick babies, and she knows “the Goddess Brigid” helped her grow big and strong when she was born prematurely. She helped make candles at Candlemas and will color eggs this weekend for Spring Equinox. Right now, she’s all about the external trappings and hasn’t begun to question the underlying theology.