Guests and the Pit

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I understand that bad language is restricted to the pit.

But I’m curious about the way Guests can post in the pit.

I just saw something in The Pit that I’d like to ask about.

Someone posted a thread complaining about the way they had been treated by a large corporation.

Then some guest replied to their post by attacking them and calling them names.

Many people may deny this, but I believe they feel bad to some extent whenever someone else attacks them and calls them names - even if that person is a stranger or a so-called “guest”.

I wonder about allowing anyone and everyone to enter this board and making those kinds of attacks on members and I’d like to ask if people think this is really a reasonable kind of thing.

Some people who are somewhat emotionally disturbed enjoy taking out their anger by making “over the top” kinds of attacks on others. And some people actually feel hurt when they are the victims of these kinds of diatribes.

So, is it really a reasonable policy to allow anyone and everyone to come into this forum and behave like that?

I realize there is one place designated as “The Pit” and it is clearly explained those kinds of posts are expected there and people understand that if they post in The Pit, they should expect those kinds of responses.

But on the other hand, those kinds of posts don’t really help anyone. They just give miscreants an outlet to blow off steam at the expense of innocents.

I’m a newcomer here and I’m sure this kind of question has been raised before. I’d just like to ask if anyone could direct me to some posts that explain the rational as to why this is a reasonable thing to allow.

Why allow “guests” to be able to post anything they like in The Pit? If they are going to indulge in abusive conduct towards members, is it not reasonable to at least insist they provide an email address and make themselves vulnerable to the responses of other members?

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Everyone deserves and needs a place to vent sometimes. It’s the internet. It’s a message board. Although you can sit there and wish we could all hold hands and sing hymns around a campfire, the reality is that sometimes tempers flair and arguments happen. Nothing wrong with getting so annoyed by someone (either in real life or on here) and wanting to let them know just how stupid or assholish you think they are or are being.

How else would they know if they didn’t already?

Nothing wrong with a forum set aside for this. Usually there are “uncensored” forums on every message board, in some fashion.

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OTOH, some people come to the board expecting to be greeted with great pomp and circumstance … and they get very upset when their postings are questioned.

We can’t please everyone and we can’t be all things to all people. This is a medium cranky message board that can be incredibly compassionate when called upon but also can rip people to shreds for any number of reasons. So it all depends on the circumstances and everyone’s circumstances be different.

While we hope everyone will be at least reasonably civil to their fellow posters, that’s not always a given. In some situations here that’s okay, but you have to know when and where to play that.

For some people this is a great sandbox to play in. For others, it’s the last place they need to be. How you find it and what you do with it matters.

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I don’t think you understand the term “Guest”. A guest is not a person who has just started posting to the SDMB. A guest is someone who is registered to post but who has chosen not to pay the yearly subscription fee and who thus has to see the advertisements, while a member is someone who has chosen to pay the yearly subscription fee so they don’t have to see the advertisements. Many people who are listed as being guests have posted to the SDMB for years. Yes, we know that some regular posters are jerks in the Pit. There are some posters who acted like such utter jerks that they got banned eventually. Others have managed to hold their jerkiness within bounds sufficiently that they can continue to post for years while being thought to be jerks by other posters. They confine their moderate jerkiness to the Pit. The rest of us have learned to ignore them.

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…and The BBQ Pit a litterbox? :smiley:

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You understand incorrectly. You can curse in any forum on this board. What you can’t do outside of the Pit is insult other posters, including calling them names. There is a sticky thread in the Pit with further restrictions on certain language, which may not be directed at posters even in that forum.

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This should come with the confirmation email when you join. If I’d known all this at the beginning things may have been different. :slight_smile:

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Hi Lazlo Hapsburg and welcome to the Straight Dope Message Board! You are correct in being a little wary of the Pit. Its core function is to be a safety valve when discussions in other parts of the board get out of hand. It props the “No insult” rule by creating an environment where personal and inflammatory discussion can take place.

I tried to avoid the place for years. After a while though, I got used to the culture: for myself, I find it convenient to the extent that I often present a less substantiated argument there than I would in Great Debates or General Questions. Still, I think it’s a good idea for newbies to avoid the Pit in the beginning: there are terrific discussions in other parts of the board that provide a better introduction.

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Anyone who is posting in the Pit should be aware that name-calling is permitted there. It’s pretty well advertised. Anyone who doesn’t like that sort of environment should avoid posting in the Pit. I personally never (well, hardly ever) post there.

For example, in the situation you describe, the person complaining about treatment by a large corporation could have posted in IMHO or MPSIMS, where insults cannot be directed at other posters.

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Not really. Perhaps I don’t “get out much”, but they are quite rare in my experience (and personally I don’t find them necessary, as if you get so upset by a message board that you need to insult someone in a “special place” then perhaps you need a more productive hobby). I kind of get the point of the “venting” about outside events, but again I personally don’t get so upset that I feel the need to do so to the entire world (then again I almost never start threads on any message board).

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I’ve been here for 12 years and have over 17,500 posts. Am I a “stranger”? If you need to send me an e-mail, it’s right there in my profile.

Welcome to the SDMB - maybe you should spend some time getting to know the place.

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This is a pretty funny concept considering how many of us are here as guests. Though I rarely go near the pit these days.

Is bad language actually restricted to the pit? I thought it was just bad language aimed at other posters that was.

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AFAIK it’s fucking fine to use mother-fucking profanity anywhere we god-damn please, within bloody reason, damnit.

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Restricted language in the Pit. It’s a list of 5 phrases (and variants thereof) you cannot direct at other posters.

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So the op seems to be misinformed then from his first line:

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Victor Lazlo. I remember Casablanca.

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You are correct.

I did not understand the term “Guest” properly and I did not understand that bad language is allowed in other forums just so it is not directed at other posters.

I apologize for any inconvenience and thank you all for educating me about that.

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I belong to at least a half dozen other message boards. I use one or two of them quite often and the rest very sparingly. For those of you who may not have experienced very many other boards (and this is probably a very small number), I’d like to say this is probably the most “adult” board I’ve ever experienced.

By “adult”, I don’t just mean the topics are adult. I also don’t mean the kinds of posts made do not seem to be full of childish behavior. Many of the other boards seem largely populated by children. They seem to have very little life experience and very little ability to express a broad view of most subjects.

Mostly by “adult”, I mean people here (for the most part) seem to treat each other in a civilized or dignified fashion. I know there is a lot of joking around that doesn’t seem too dignified. But when it comes down to it, most interactions on these boards seems to me to be more considerate and caring of other members.

I really admire that and I take my hat off to all of you.

In this thread, it would have been so easy for many people to criticize me for not having taken the time to learn the meaning of “Guest” or to read through the rules to properly understand the use of bad language as it applies to The Pit.

Yet no one replied to me by implying the problem I described was all my fault - even though it was.

I’m really impressed with the level of maturity here. And I will try to be more careful in the future. I have tried to be careful. I have only made a very small number of posts in the time I have been a Guest here. But I will try to be even more careful in the future.

Thank you all.

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Sort of ironic that they feel there is a need for the pit, rather than simply ignore minor irritations, isn’t it? Other than that, I pretty much agree with you, or at least won’t disagree.

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This board has been around since March of 1999 and existed on AOL before that. Many of us older members have gotten close to each other, both here and in real life. It’s spawned marriages and babies (my own included), and when people we’ve known from here have died, we’ve mourned their loss. For a lot of us, it’s a community of people we know and know well.

Consequently, we need the safety valve of the Pit. It’s kinda the SDMB equivalent of taking someone outside to let them know they’re behaving unacceptably. It’s just a place to hash out differences and either encourage the person to knock it off with the behavior or at least to come to an understanding about it. It’s healthy and keeps most of the poison out of the rest of the forum.