Ah, the “Guilt Trip”. You know, the not-so-subtle technique to try to squeeze something “extra” out of you, by trying to make you feel guilty about it. I HATE it when people do this, especially bosses. (I hasten to add, I did search for a bit for a topic simular to this before I posted, I couldn’t find anything. I hope this is the right place for this topic!)
I have some bosses who are overwhelmed by their duties, and to add to this, are disorganized flakes. I feel sympathy for them up to a point. Their job is no picnic. However, I feel only so much pity and sympathy for people who cannot get their shit together, and then try to make their employees feel guilty because they find themselves in a bind.
Something just happened to me today with my job, and it annoyed the hell out of me. My boss asked me to work on my day off. I was hesitant, and said I’d think about it. She said she’d call back later to ask me again, and give me some other important informtion that she needed to tell me. Anyway, she NEVER called back. I waited all the next day, never called. I had half-figured that I might work a half day, but when I didn’t hear from her, I figured that she found someone else to work that day. I made plans for my weekend.
Then I get a call today, on MY DAY OFF, asking me if I can work today. The boss merely says “We didn’t catch up with each other earlier” in regards to not calling me before. (This is her code word for “I was a flake and didn’t bother to call you when I said I would.”) When she asks me if I will work I say, No! I had figured that she found someone else - I never heard from her, after all. She accepts this. (I give her credit for that.)
But shortly after that I learn that another supervisor, currently miserable with the flu, is having to work today instead of me. I feel bad - I mean, the woman is miserable with the flu, and I know she was hoping that I’d work. But, I frickin’ would have worked (at least a half day) if I had been asked when I was supposed to be asked! What the HELL is wrong with these people?!? Why can’t they get their shit together?
And now I am sitting at home, thinking about that woman with the flu who is working today. And I do NOT feel all that guilty, but it bugs me - that at least some of this could have been prevented had that one boss been less of a disorganized flake!
Well, I have vented. I thought I’d share, and perhaps I’d be able to get a few stories from the rest of you on this same topic - The Old Guilt Trip, a specialty of some bosses.