Slightly more icked than when I see hetero PDA, but only really in the sense that people who don’t like broccoli might be icked by watching people eat broccoli.
I’m *less *likely to voice an opinion (i.e. “get a room, you two”), owing to the possibility of this being perceived as out-and-out homophobia, as opposed to a fairly general dislike of PDA.
We do not see It around here but it does not bother me at all.
Yeah, I’m not bothered by a quick peck or even an affectionate kiss but full-on face-eating by any couple of any gender in public is tacky and I will look away in discomfort. And yes, that includes lesbian couples.
But that’s the best time to look - while they’re distracted!
Worst euphemism ever.
To be honest, yes, a little bit, but I acknowledge it’s my problem and it shouldn’t impact anyone else’s behavior.
I have never cared about gays kissing but I do find that artificial greeting/farewell kissing inordinately repulsive. I have no idea why.
I do not like public displays of affection. Hugs are okay, but not kissing. Straight or gay.
Nope, and generally not bothered by public displays of affection, either. I think US culture tends to be too uptight about such things. Depending on the details of the situation, my reaction probably ranges from paying no attention to “That’s sweet” to “Get a room, guys”–though I’d only say the last aloud if the couple were friends of mine, and able to take a gentle ribbing*.
*This did not seem like a euphemism until I typed it, but now that I have, I feel no impulse to change it.
Nope. Generally, I’d think “that’s hot” .
Female, straight, so I didn’t respond to the poll, but I wondered if it’s not a question of familiarity. I have and have had a number of male gay friends over the years, and I’m not at all bothered by seeing them kiss. I never saw any of them do more than that.
On the other hand, the rare times where I’ve seen females kiss (more than a peck) have made me cringe inwardly. I don’t know where that comes from, as I’m totally in favour of gay marriage, for instance. Is it because I identify more with people of my sex and am bothered by a woman’s sexual attraction to women, something I can’t feel/share?
Yep, it squicks me. Don’t have anything against gay people, fully support gay marriage, but I can’t help but grimace a little when I see it.
While he’s assembling his, maybe you could present your own evidence that it’s a socialized reaction? (Or is this just to be a “nuh-uh!” / “is so!” style of debate?)
Yes, I always grimace and go “ewwwww!” But, I’m willing to put up with it if that’s the price for being able to watch two women make out.
I answered ‘yes,’ but any ‘ick’ factor I feel on seeing two guys kiss each other is my problem, not theirs.
Pretty obvious that he doesn’t actually have anything to back up what he said.
I’m pretty sure the underlying message is “It’s innate so I can’t possibly help it!”
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While he’s assembling his, maybe you could present your own evidence that it’s a socialized reaction? (Or is this just to be a “nuh-uh!” / “is so!” style of debate?)
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Just so you know, outside the SDMB it’s customary for the person making the claim to come up with evidence. “Well, you can’t prove me wrong, can you?” is not actually considered a valid form of argument.
I used to, but after actually spending time with gay couples, it doesn’t bother me anymore. It’s no more noteworthy than seeing a straight couple kiss.
Oh, bullshit. Chefguy clarified his comments, and only said “that’s the way it seems to me”. You’ve been squealing like a stuck pig throughout this entire thread, as if Chrfguy claimed to have irrefutable proof. Just let the fucking hijack go, already.
Nobody’s saying that. I’m asking that you, if you disagree with him and think it’s a socialized trait, offer some evidence to back up your opinion.
He didn’t “clarify” anything (and his comments were not unclear in the first place), he repeated the same statement in different words. If he wants to act like an adult and acknowledge that his statement was baseless, he can do that. He didn’t; he responded with a childish insult instead.
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Nobody’s saying that. I’m asking that you, if you disagree with him and think it’s a socialized trait, offer some evidence to back up your opinion.
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Honestly, I can’t believe I have to explain this, but read the thread. It’s full of examples of people who lost their “innate” disgust by spending time around gay people. The reaction was socialized out of them.
That’s so obvious just from reading this thread that I can’t help but wonder if you’re trying to get at something else and I’m missing it.
It wasn’t a trick question. By “evidence” I assumed we were talking about actual studies. If anecdotes from this thread are acceptable as evidence, then a few posters have said they feel it’s an innate reaction, so the evidence is contradictory and we can’t really conclude much from it.
First of all, of the two of you, Chefguy is the one acting like an adult. You’ve been pitching a fit since you arrived in the thread.
And, yes, his second post clarified that this was a general feeling of his, not a hard stance he was going to live or die by. That is most certainly not the same as restating something in a different way. It is a clarifying statement.
I think I used to (like, when I was in grade school or something), but I certainly don’t any more. Any time I see same-sex couples kiss I kinda say “Hooray for y’all!” in my mind. I then double-hooray if no one around them makes some kind of “ew” face.