In gay life there is a thing called the hanky code where it basically advertizes what you like to have done to you or do to other people. It makes a difference with color and which pocket you wear it in (the right pocket is the receiver the left is the giver).
Blue - anal sex
yellow - watersports
beige - rimming
red - fisting
marroon - double fisting
white - masterbation
black - s & m
grey - light s & m
pink - toys (I think)
There are many others, I just can’t think of them right now. Is there some type of straight equivalent to this? Want any more information?
As far as I know, the straight equivalent is something like stumbling up to that gorgeous blonde whilst extremely drunk, then shouting in her ear to top the loud disco music:
“Hey baby ! Fancy a shag ?”
I suppose I’m no good, code-wise…
We’ll leave the subtleties of life to our gay friends
I thought the hanky code had died out several years back. I will have to look more closely at what sort of hankies people carry again. (double fisting? Ow ow ow)
What does kleenex mean? Use me once, then throw me away?
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My observations of global popular cultures has led me to believe there is one fundamental code - left is dominative, right is submissive. That would expain why most males get their left ear pierced. As for the colours of the bandanas, that may be an urban myth started by the Al Pacino movie “Cruising”. From true accounts about gay bars I have read in books and the press I would say that a coloured hanky code wouldn’t be required and I’ve never seen it documented. Gay culture does not really appear to be all that modest in bars to need a detailed hanky code. On the other hand, if a certain regional subculture was making great use of bandanas it is inevitable that they would start to elaborate.
final disclaimer: No offense intended to gays reading this. You will have the final word on this matter. I consider you perfectly ordinary people and I will never discriminate against you and I will defend you against discrimination.
Al, you should know that SqrlCub is our resident vocal gay dude. (Well, one of them anyway, and I haven’t seen anything from matt_mcl lately.) If you know more about this code thing than he does, you must have been doing lots of research!
Hanky codes are alive and kicking over the US. They are more prevalent in the various S&M subcultures though. I know of no one who wears marroon hankies, but of the more extreme I know several red, yellow, and black ones. My friend Jay, from Los Angeles, wears a yellow, beige, grey, and blue hanky in his right pocket whenever he goes out. (BTW, he looks like a big Jewish Santa Claus) So, yes Al Zheimers, the hanky code is alive and well.
Anyway, back on topic, is there or isn’t their a straight equivalent? If so, what is it? Does anyone know any other hanky color equivalents?
Here are a few more:
Peach: Likes chubs (aka big guys)
(If I wore a hanky, I probably would wear this one and the following)
Kelly green: Daddy/son
Green: needing payment. I don’t think this one is used anymore
Well,my former husb. was gay,and there was no code that we knew of. As for straight codes,I believe if you look at a guy for more than 2 seconds,it means Let’s go out!
Never heard a straight person use such a code & well, I should hope not as they might be taken for a gay person.
One straight code might have been with ear lobes. Pulling your ear lobe when seeing a girl was to indicate you wanted to do her.
Shucks, wasn’t there even a time when a guy wearing an ear ring was a gay thing and if it was the right ear it meant something and the left something else?
Never heard a straight person use such a code & well, I should hope not as they might be taken for a gay person.
One straight code might have been with ear lobes. Pulling your ear lobe when seeing a girl was to indicate you wanted to do her.
Shucks, wasn’t there even a time when a guy wearing an ear ring was a gay thing and if it was the right ear it meant something and the left something else?
RE: op,
I have seen a device used in straight cultures (although probobly used in gay cultures, also). It looks like a beeper- you enter in some info about what you’re looking for (like drinks, dinner, a movie, hot sex) and if you get near someone else with the same interests programmed in, you both beep. Then you hook up, shag rotten, get married, have kids, etc.
Kinda neat…
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