Title is pretty straight forward, but just to be sure I’m clear. I’m not asking if you’ve argued over FB, but rather:
If it had not been for FB, the SO (or ex) and I, probably never would have argued about “X”.
FB… I!
FB – Fifth Banana
When my wife joined, she was unhappy to see that I was “friends” with a former college girlfriend and wanted me to de-friend her. There was a brief argument there since the only rationale was because we previously dated which seemed like a pretty weak thread but ultimately domestic happiness won out over status updates from someone I slept with twenty years ago.
The only reason I used Facebook was to checkout the women I was meeting; we’re they crazy, did they have a boyfriend, etc. Once I met my wife I quit using it. After we got married I got chewed out because one of her friends found my Facebook page still said I lived in different city and was single with my phone number on it. My wife didn’t think I was cheating but she was pissed that I didn’t want to tell all of my facebook friemds about her and our marriage. She now has complete control of my Facebook page and asks me if I want to add people as friends when they send me requests.
I voted Other because I feel like it probably has, but they were so inconsequential that I’ve forgotten. Sometimes it fires up a good old healthy debate between us, but those are fun rather than serious or angry, and the Dope is a more frequent source of them anyway.
Yes, a now exgirlfriend and I argued because I wouldn’t defriend a buch of old female friends. Not old girlfriends just friends and old coworkers.
How odd.
No, never. And my Wife has also Friended the exes I keep in touch with.
I thought FB was a silly internet toy for people to share pictures of cats. If I see something I like, I click “Like.” If I see something I dislike, I ignore it. But my wife thinks Facebook is SERIOUS GODDAMNED BUSINESS.
She’s never gotten along with my father very much. He posted something political that she disagreed with and it sent her into a tizzy. Then she got mad at me because I didn’t care, or because I refused to disagree with him, or something stupid like that. But it gets better. My father has no real use for Facebook to begin with, so he just quit using it. To my wife, that was an unbearable insult. The only reason he would quit is because he didn’t want anything to do with her. This mad her even madder than what he had posted to begin with.
But it gets better. Eventually he decided to start using it again, and he didn’t want to “Friend” her. This was just intolerable. She couldn’t figure out why he would “Friend” me but ignore her. I told her that they don’t get along, they’ve never gotten along, and it seemed to me that if they never speak to each other at all that would be a perfectly reasonable thing to do. Oh boy. THAT idea did not go over well.
Keeping her enemies closer, eh?
Smart woman.
My ex was always accusing me of cheating, and FB was just another place I wasn’t trusted.
I had a friend of the opposite sex die of cancer, and I changed my profile picture to one of me and her as a tribute. My ex went ballistic and thought it was a horrible insult that I would have my profile picture, even temporarily, of me with another woman.
It appears you had the good sense to make her your ex.
Yes, for this and many reasons like it. But that incident is my one time that something on facebook became an IRL argument.
All the fucking time. My wife has appointed herself my Facebook censor and will meticulously review everything I post and then call attention to anything that she thinks will bring dishonor to the family, or something.
FUNNY STORY: About ten years ago (give or take) a former high school girlfriend friended me on Facebook. I looked through her pictures, and her son looked very familiar, if you get my drift. Same build, same nose, cowlick in his hair in the same spot and same direction as me. And the math added up. She swore up and down that he wasn’t mine, but then unfriended me not a day later. WTF.
Me posting on Facebook is a dead giveaway that I’ve been drinking, so that’s kind of like painting a target on my back.
I have been saying this for decades. FaceBook is evil. FB is Satans home page on the internets. To linger there is to invite strife and stabbings.
I once had a fight with my (now) wife over a comment one of my friends made under a post of one of my other friends. The way my friends and I talk to each other, admittedly, could easily be construed as wildly offensive, even maliciously so, by outsiders. Without getting into specifics, talk amongst ourselves frequently involves un-PC language and some, let’s say, unenlightened ideas, bandied about sarcastically and ironically. She just wasn’t yet in on the joke, and it took her quite a lot of convincing that we don’t really mean it.
Facebook is the opiate of the masses…
This is why I treat Facebook like a public forum where everyone knows my name. On my best behaviour at all times.
Not me personally, but a mate of mine and his wife had more than one fight over random guys friending her on Facebook - she was/is an attractive woman and knew how to take an appealing selfie - so he’d get very irritated at her doing it and having all these randoms wanting to be her friend (despite not knowing them at all, even sightly, IRL), and she’d get angry and him for being angry about it and accuse him of controlling her.
They both took a break from Facebook for a while and it did them a lot of good.