Frankly, I don’t care if people have a problem with it. It worked for me, and no amount of prejudice from other people can alter the fact that it was totally successful for me. My husband and I lived in the same damn town for 4 years and never met, and within 45 minutes of each other for 10 years. Even if we had somehow wound up in the same place at the same time, I doubt we would have talked because he’s shy and I wouldn’t have thought he was my type or I was his type without knowing him first.
See, meeting him online allowed us to meet in a lower pressure situation-- we were both on okcupid because we wanted to date. A lot of the guesswork is taken out of it since we knew we were scouting each other out for a relationship. We IM’ed daily for several weeks and got a lot of that initial feeling out bullshit out of the way. He tends to play his cards close to the chest IRL, but online he was funny, smart, honest, and open, all the things I like. I already really liked him when we met in person, and he wasn’t as shy because we’d already talked about so much.
Thus, the only component left was to meet and see if there was any chemistry in person. There was, like gangbusters. It was pretty much instant love, which has never happened to me before. No games, no dicking around, not a lot of doubt and wavering. I feel like we got that out of the way in our pre-date talks. Maybe that has something to do with us both being honest, no bullshit people, but a lot of the nonsense that we both hated about dating was eliminated.
We were engaged within 6 months of meeting each other and we’re married now. I can’t give a better endorsement, but maybe I was just lucky. There’s a first time for everything.