I used to get in fights on a weekly basis in elementary and junior high school, some I won, some were draws, and on some days I got my ass kicked. My father taught me as a kid that if someone said something verbally towards you, you ignored it, but once they laid a hand on you, it’s game on.
I was on the wrestling team in High School and there were three incidents where some “tough guys” tried something with me, by then I matured to the point where I learned violence wasnt the answer, and fortunately for all involved, they were given the hint that in a fight, they had about a 50/50 chance, so that was that. I’m not the toughest guy in the world, but I think the message they got was if they wanted a fight, it wasnt going to be against a punching bag, either, and that doesnt really suit well with bullies.
Right out of college, at a party my roomates were hosting, this well known barfighting guy decided he wanted to horse around and start wrestling people. We were all drunk, so on a lark I took him on, and we were having fun locking up, we finally let go, and jokingly, I took a steel chair and threatened him with it, pretending I was a pro wrestler.
This stupid fucking moron freaks out, and starts ramming me repeatedly into a wall, yelling at me “you never pull a chair on me”. His friends jumped on him, and pulled him off me, and were all acting apologetic like “he didn’t mean it, he didnt mean it” and I just stood there laughing at this guy, because he rammed me into the wall three times and didnt even hurt me. He quickly left when it was apparent to him everyone at the party thought he was a total ass.
Never had any real problems since then, except one incident 10 years ago where a dude got hotheaded and tried to start a physical confrontation, but cooler heads prevailed, he apologized for losing his temper, and we shook hands.
Fighting is never the answer. If you are lucky, and do clean someones clock, if they dont find a way to get back at you ----you risk arrest and long jail sentance, a lawsuit, or physically ruining someones physical well being for the rest of their lives over something that probably wasnt a big deal to begin with. Worst case scenario, you could get killed, maimed, or crippled or otherwise disabled for life. Friendliness and diplomacy I find are the best ways ways to win a fight. Most people that are willing to fight you have little to lose, and are lifes losers. I have too much to lose by getting into a fight because I am successful in life.