Mentally, on paper, in an Excel spread sheet, or a relational database.
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Yes because a new spouse/lover asked
Yes because I was feeling down and wanted to reassure myself I still have it
Yes because I was feeling down and wanted to make myself feel a little worse
Yes because I recently had sex and wanted to feel good about myself
Yes because I was feeling sort of philosophical, thinking about my life and how it has gotten to where it is
Yes because I wanted to mention it, for some fucked up reason, to a guy on my second date, whose best friend I’d eventually fuck <you know who I’m talking to, you bitch>
No because I have never needed a list, because the number is small
No because no matter how small or large the number, I obsess about each single person and will never forget
No because I am Mick Jagger and am too busy
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Bonus question:
Have you ever made a list, for any reason, of the ones that got away, the ones that make you go :smack:, what was I thinking, she/he was totally coming on to me, or, :smack: what was I thinking, me Mr./Ms. Noble, turning it down, when I’m so horny now I could fuck mud
Yes,of course but mostly just for my own records. I had names, dates,times,the # of rumpy pumpy sessions per partner plus a rating system. Sometimes Id compare my list with some of my less prudish friends. Ive never shared my list with my boyfriends or hubby.
I havent done a list since the late 90s and to tell the truth Id be really hard pressed to remember last names and a few first names these days. Ive never forgotten an experience though. You never forget the really good ones or the really bad ones.
I had, but I have either forgotten a few people, or I had a different criteria, or something, because trying to remember now, I get a lower number than I remember previously. So instead I just counted actual boyfriends that I dated for over one month. The number astounded me, because I think of myself as someone who is usually single. I also realized that I have been in relationships almost continually since 1996, with the exception of my last 4 months of nursing school and 13 months after my marriage broke up, (I had a brand new baby at the time.)
Huh.
No boyfriend except the first has ever wanted to know “the number” and I most certainly don’t want to know anyone else’s grand total. I want to know their past sex life was safe clean, consensual, and that any doubts they may have were cleared up by blood tests.
Wax on / wax off
Number 1 for me. A couple of names gave me trouble, timing was hard to figure in a couple of cases because of going back and forth between several different girls, and I accidentally totally left someone out that later got revealed in a slightly amusing way.
Mentally I have, but I’ve lost track because I don’t care anymore. But back when I was worried about numbers, I knew them all in order. I still know those ones off the top of my head, and could remember them all in order if I thought about it, but like I said, I don’t care.
This is funny to me. Recently, I’ve been trying to make a list of everyone I ever had sex with, plus everyone I’ve come close to having sex with (some coitus got interruptus, some failures to launch, some "Not yet, dear"s that never moved on to the next stage, some early escapades in difficult physical spots, e.g. a seat on a moving Greyhound bus, where full-on sex was impracticable), plus I really got ambitious and decide to list everyone I ever WANTED to have sex with (or more practically, felt I had a reasonable shot of having sex with), which literally came close to a thousand names. I’ve got this whole list on an Excel sheet with an incredibly dull name (I think I started a thread here asking for suggestions for suitably dull names) and every few days a new name pops into my addled brain, usually just of someone I once had a wicked crush on, but occassionally of someone I had actual sex with but had completely obliterated from my memory. I too am putting into my list little notes, about extreme talent in bed (and extreme, often comical, lack of skillz) and about extreme beauty (and occasionally, its opposite). I have to say, I’m very impressed with this list, all in all: if I could somehow have shown myself this list when I was a teenager and said “You will have sex with all these women pictured and described here, and you will almost have sex with all of these women, and you will get to meet and flirt with the hundreds of other women on this list,” I would have signed up for that in a flash.
The troubling part is my poor memory. I find I’ve forgotten the first name (sometimes the last name) of several women I was crazy about, and there are a few I know I was involved with but have no idea what we actually did or didn’t do. I re-connected with one such woman a few years ago, and painfully, must report that she had to remind me that we once fooled around. Me: “Really? You and me?” and she rather disgustedly had to confirm that fact. Not my most gallant moment.
#7 for me. Since I don’t do one night stands or short-term flings, and all but one partner were serious long-term relationships, I can count all of my partners on one hand, and I don’t need to bother keeping a list to recall them, and never really do so for myself.
Despite the low number, though, girlfriends over the years want to know about both dating partners and sex partners… and they always freak out about the relatively high number of dating partners, which does involve me actually having to make a list, editing and re-editing, then adding more after she’s seen the list. So, for dating, #1. And woe betide me if they ever ask what my sex partners looked like/did for a living/performed like.
Anyone really good at Excel spreadsheets, btw? I’m trying to manage my list, and I don’t really know squat about Excel. How do you move or cut’n’paste items from one line to another?