Health or Love?

People frequently say “at least you have your health”. I used to think it was the most important thing you could have, and I’ve struggled for many years now with terrible back problems that have left me disabled. I used to say that I would do or give absolutely ANYTHING on earth to be well again, but a few days ago I realized that was not true. Instead of health, I got true love, which I value tremendously. I was thinking the other day that the only thing on earth I would not give up to be well again is my husband.

It’s an odd question, I know- but if you had to pick, which would it be? Genuine, repectful, true love (fun, game playing, sledding together,mutual respect and trust,great sex kind of love) or excellent health? When I ask, I mean that if you are in love or planned on it, forget it. It’s health or love, one or the other.

If answering, indicate if you have had/have a serious health problem and how that affects your opinion.

Obviously my answer is love, as that choice has already been made for me. A few years ago I would have said health, though.

Zette
(I gotta stay away from therapy- see what it gets you thinking about??)

Love, hands down.

Illness, terror, pain, it all goes away or at least becomes less meaningful with love.

I got very sick last year. It sucked a lot. It doesn’t affect my opinion, I would have said that before.

My first love and I had an agreement. I said I could do anything if he was there to hold me through it and kiss me after.

I have my own ideas about what true love means (who doesn’t?) but what do you mean by bad health?

I mean, terminal cancer would defininatly put a crimp in true love for me. I don’t even like Love Story.

On the other hand chronic back pain? Yeah I’d take love for chronic back pain.

Love deifinitely. Although my health problems contributed to my loss of love
(1-1/2 yrs of little work makes money obsessed spouse antsy)
But you’re talking about true love- that only comes around once a century or so…

sorry- I should clarify. I don’t mean something terminal, I mean something that causes suffering daily and stops you from participating in many things you want to do (such as working, sitting, standing, running, jumping, and generally living life pain-free). This could be a bad back, bad knees, chronic fatigue syndrome, MS, MD- any number of illnesses.

Zette

This thread reminds me of the story of a senator meeting with a group of (formerly) homeless teens. He asked them if the government could only fund one thing, should it be housing, health care or education? The reply: Which two didyour* kid give up?*