My father recently (last week) had a biopsy done on his prostrate (negative). The problem is he is still bleeding. Not only is his underwear stained with blood but it’s getting all over the toilet when he urinates.
I don’t think this is normal. The searches I’ve done indicate minor bleeding is common bu I think it should have stopped by now.
My mother has asked him to go back to the doctor but he says when he calls the office he is told it’s normal.
Why don’t you call the Dr’s office as ask yourself. Ask to speak to the Dr in person. If the Dr. isn’t available, request a call back regardless of the hour, and give them your cell #. When you do get the Dr. tell them in detail what you told us, and that you’re really worried.
There could be a whole bunch of things going on:
-You Dad did not call, he is making this up so he won’t have to go again.
-Your Dad did call, but told them it was only a few drops of blood, so they think it’s minor & normal.
-Your Dad did call and was accurate, but spoke to a distracted/careless underling who brushed him off.
Once you know what you’re dealing with, you will know the right thing to do. *Then *you can worry about convincing your Dad to do it. Probably just telling him what the Dr. said will be enough.
I have to do this all the time with my 82 yr old Mom, who never wants to see a doctor or go to the emerg. (even when she had a heart attack)
HIPPA laws may prevent him from getting any information here in the States, trupa.
I have nothing else to say, except best wishes. I had been begging hubby for years to see someone about his high blood glucose: but it took our 9 year old daughter becoming a type 1 diabetic for him to do anything about it. Best of luck to ya, and hope he gets to the doc soon.
He wouldn’t be asking for specific information about his father’s medical treatment. He’d be asking the doctor if this kind of bleeding is normal after a prostate biopsy. The doctor will be happy to give him that information, and it isn’t breaking any confidentiality laws.
I did get the name of the Dr from my mother. She said it is NOT minor bleeding. When she woke up this morning there was blood on two walls, the toilet and the shower curtain. I will call the doctor tomorrow and advise him of what is happening.
Crying always works with me.
Good luck.
Having worked in a couple doctor’s offices, I’ll say it’s highly likely the doctor won’t be in or will be unavailable; ask to speak to a nurse otherwise. Tell the nurse exactly what you did here, that your father is minimizing it but what your mother has seen, and that the doctor needs to convince him to come in.
Alternately, my husband once drove to his father’s house and told him that he was either getting in the car, or the ambulance would be called, after his father had suffered a “mini-stroke” (TIA) and refused to go to the hospital before that point. Yay for stubbornness preventing timely care. :mad:
I have had two bio’s. Never had bleeding like you are describing.
Ok I heard from my mother yesterday that the bleeding stopped on it’s own.
Take a digital camera and get pictures of this and then drag your dad to either the doctor’s office or emergency. All that blood loss doesn’t sound normal.
How old is your dad?
Missed this.
A strategy that worked with me dealing alone with my then 71ish mother when she was having great difficulty walking very short distances (and it happened all of a sudden, not after a fall or anything.) AND she was not going to do a thing about it because IT IS WHAT HAPPENS TO OLD PEOPLE. YOU JUST GET OLD crap. I told her that if she didn’t go to the doctor to get some kind of therapy prescribed or DO SOMETHING POSITIVE for herself instead of WAITING THE FUCK AROUND FOR DEATH TO HAPPEN ( I didn’t say it like that, but it was in ALL CAPS!!!11!!) I would put her in a nursing home because I didn’t have time with two kids in diapers to put up with such nonsense.
She made the phone call in the morning.
Got PT.
Didn’t help.
Went to a chiropractor who pretty much saved her. He is now a member of her family.
She’s 82 now and still living alone.
I haven’t had to yell at her in while ( ok, there was the incident last fall with the cat scratch, but that’s another story.) This example is the only time I have ever really got in my mother’s face and read her the riot act.