Help me figure out the right term for...

I’m trying to figure the right term for a situation.

On another forum (NOT THIS ONE), there is a certain perceived cultural attitude. When that attitude is brought up on the forum, there is vehement push back… “oh, that just isn’t true!” … “you’re just trying to make a straw man to tilt at.”… “you can’t stand that you’re loosing and are just trying to make US look bad.”

The posters on this forum genuinely do not recognize how anti-(activity) they are (or at least I hope that is the case). Many are involved in a pre-(activity) industry that is threatened by the popularity of this new activity.

This is not the activity, but examples of where I’ve seen a similar blind-faith-refuse to look at both sides objectively, near-religious refusal to consider that their language is being abusive to the other side of the argument when used but the speaker claims it isn’t meant as a derogatory thing.

Vegitarians who call all non-vegitarians Carnivoirs
Gay people who refer to heterosexual people as Breeders
Tea Party Members who refer to the president as “The One”

I’m not against Vegitarians, Gay or Tea Party Members. And if they said, YES, I intended that as a slam, that’s honest and not what I’m talking about.

I’m talking about when they seem to genuinely believe that the terms should not be taken as negative by the other side. There has to be some term for that sort of lack of insight… isn’t there?

There has to be a word for that level of blindness to their dug-in-edness. This isn’t a confirmation bias thing (I’m not talking about changing opinions of anyone) I’m talking about identifying a communications flaw.

This is an in-ability to see that they are dug-in to a belief and so cannot realize that their comments are taken as rude and condesending by people without the same belief.

Sorry for being so long and redundant… but there has to be a word to describe this and I’ve been trying to come up with it for about three days… I just keep drawing a blank.

I think the term is “bigotry”: it sounds as though you’re describing people with difficult-to-dislodge prejudices against another group, and that’s pretty much what bigotry means.

That said, I notice the passive voice “perceived” in your initial description, and your saying that they’ve accused you of straw-manning. When someone accuses you of straw-manning, the appropriate response IMO is not to double-down on your description of their argument (which is what 99% of people in the Internet do), but rather to back up and ask them to clarify both their position and how it differs from your description of it. Because a lot of times it’ll turn out that what you saw as an insignificant part of their position is actually something they hold key to the position.