Sorry for the too-long post. Short version: we might need a boarding school for my smart son who is going into the 11th grade this fall. Is there any hope of finding a really good US school that will take him at this late date?
Long version:
With very heavy heart I write that my son’s wonderful school in Jakarta is at the heart of a sexual abuse of a child(ren) case. (We are American expats.)
The story is complicated and still unfolding. I trust the school administration and teachers more than I can possibly say (the abuse was perpetrated by outsourced cleaning staff, and the school reported it/helped ID and catch the perps as soon as it came to light). But the kindergarten has already been closed by the Ministry of Education (for fall - at least they are letting current enrollees finish the year). The story is as complex and subtext-filled as “Bonfire of the Vanities” but a lot more tragic.
So, what are we going to do? It’s April. Our son is finishing 10th grade and had just chosen his coursework (mixed IB/AP courses with a very strong focus on physics, computer science, and math) for the fall. We had planned our lives and work around ensuring he graduated from this school, which offers unparalleled access to fine teachers, first-rate facilities, and challenging coursework.
If his school is forced to close, or is so badly tarnished that his education over the next couple of years will be adversely affected, we need alternatives. There are none in Jakarta (there is one other really good school for expatriates, but for various reasons I don’t think it is a good choice, besides which it is already over-enrolled and won’t have space for any kids streaming out of my son’s school).
Would any reputable boarding school even have a slot for him this fall (if they take into consideration what has happened and why we are applying so late)? I want him to go to a really good college prep school. He’s very intelligent (he took the PSATs and got an 80 in math and writing and a 64 in critical reading - and that’s a year before he was “supposed” to take PSATs) and that should help. He’s participated in CTY every year since the summer after 5th grade, and this summer is taking a course on special relativity. His dream is to attend MIT and while of course he may not get in, for him it is a realistic goal to strive for.
On the not-so-plus side, he’s not athletic at all, and he isn’t social; he’s got his MtG friends and a wonderful long-distance girlfriend, but he is completely indifferent to “fitting in” with his more typical classmates. His invulnerability to peer pressure is great, but almost TOO great.
I know we will get through this, but I am very worried.
I went to a New England prep school myself but it was a “day school.” I’m aware of schools like Exeter, Choate, Northfield Mount Herman, etc., but worried that (a) they will not have a place for him; and/or (b) he would be eaten alive, socially, at such places. His experience as an expat child is not exactly an “A Separate Peace” sort of life. A school with lots of other children whose parents are working abroad would be good.
Thoughts or recommendations? For the moment assume money is no object - we will deal with that problem later.
Note that I do not blame the school - they may have made so-far-unproven practical errors that contributed to creating a physical/logistical layout where abuse was possible. But they are NOT engaging in a cover-up, they are NOT a bunch of pedophiles, and the sickening rumors that are circulating are nothing but McMartin-style lies.
Because it is a “snobby rich kid” school in a country where the media and the government can be corrupt/unsophisticated (plus presidential elections are coming, so posturing against outsiders could well appeal to some), it is very vulnerable. The truth may matter a lot less than the satisfaction taken by the ignorant and resentful when they are able to bring the school down.
I wish I could “wait and see” if the school survives this. But 11th grade is right around the corner.