1.) Tell me a little about yourself.
28 yr old tall skinny geek chick. I’m agoraphobic and have panic disorder. I’ve been doing tech support for 10 years. I stay in mostly, play online games, and read. I’m kinda a cyberhermit.
2.) How do you typically address mail to a married couple?
Depends. If it’s one of my “adult” friends like my parents friends, it’s Mr. and Mrs. Lastname. I have a couple newly married friends so I do this for them as well. Unless the letter/card is just for one of them, obviously.
3.) How do you put your return address on mail?
Firstname, lastname
Street Address
City, State, Zip
4.) What are your age, gender, and marital status?
28, female, single.
Suburban, middle class homeowner. Some college. Liberal. Agnostic. Employed.
Mr. & Mrs, unless they have different names (like my husband and me). Then it’s John Smith and Mary Jones.
For bills, I just use an address label that has just my husband’s name on it. But I addressed a wedding card with both our full names on one line just the other day.
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1.) Tell me a little about yourself.
I work two jobs, one retail and one contract camera operating for a college TV station. I’m 5’9" tall, red hair. Glasses.
2.) How do you typically address mail to a married couple?
I don’t think I’ve ever addressed mail to a married couple. If I did, it’d be Rick and Amy if I knew Rick first or Amy and Rick if I knew Amy first.
3.) How do you put your return address on mail?
I haven’t sent a piece of mail that wasn’t a bill in a long time. Usually, though, it’s last name/address/City, ST Zip.
4.) What are your age, gender, and marital status?
25, female, single but committed.
1.) Tell me a little about yourself.
Um, I live in New York. We have a cat, who seldom gets mail.
2.) How do you typically address mail to a married couple?
To how they prefer to be addressed, based on return addresses of mail they have sent me, or I will call someone to find out. If I am not certain that they share a last name, and I have some URGENT NEED to send them mail before I can research the question further, I will take a stab at calling them John and Jane Doe. If it turns out the husband’s name is John Smith, I am counting on the possibility that they will excuse my ignorance when they see the correct names on the next piece of mail I send them. (As I do for people who send me mail with my first name and hubby’s last name.)
I generally do not use Mr and Mrs John Doe unless I am writing to my elders. I think my grandmother is scandalized to see her first name in writing without an honorific.
3.) How do you put your return address on mail?
Our pre-printed labels say
Delphica MyOwnLastName and Hubby HisOwnLastName
(I put my name first because I order the address labels. It strikes me as fair.)
123 Main Street
Town, City, Zip
If I am handwriting, and it is just from me, then it’s just my name. If it’s from both of us, and going to people we know very well, I usually get lazy and just write the address, with no names. I try to be aware that other people might be counting on the return address to remember our names, or at least, the last names – for example, his college friends might not remember how to spell my last name (it’s difficult) and appreciate it being written out on the return address.
4.) What are your age, gender, and marital status?
30-ish F, married, live in New York.
1.) **Tell me a little about yourself. ** 37 year old white female, middle class. Doper, Farker, Ebay, Bowler. Two kids. One dog. Debt. Crab grass.I couldn’t get any more middle class if I wanted too.
2.) How do you typically address mail to a married couple? What is this? Writing personal letters to someone? It is a foriegn concept now adays. Anywhooo, if it a DINK then it is address to Jack and Jane Smith (whatever). If they have kids, then it is to the Smith Family. If they have a sense of humor and a pet, I address it to the pet.
3.)** How do you put your return address on mail?** our last name is Arndt How can I not use " Arndt Home" ? It is too much to resist.
4.) What are your age, gender, and marital status? 37, female, married.
Lots of people will jump at the chance to talk about themselves, and the mail thing is just a smokescreen to divert your attention from the fact that you just gave away personal information to a buncha strangers on the internet!
I’m transitioning from an admin job to a professional one (yay!). I have a 3-legged kitty and a boyfriend of 3 years who live with me. I like science fiction, travel, absurd humor, and educating myself. I also like pie.
Um, I don’t think I’ve done this other than to address HS/college graduation announcements, but for older couples it was Mr and Mrs Hisfirstname HisLastName, and younger ones it was Hisname and Hername Lastname. Most of my married friends receive email from me, not snail mail, but I suppose I would use whatever they preferred for formal correspondence, with the person I knew best being the first addressed. Also, most of my married female friends have kept their last names. I would like to point out that to my grandmother and great aunt, I write Mrs Herfirst Last for informal and Mrs Hisfirst Hislast for formal. But they’re both 85 and widowed.
For stuff I’m sending to good friends, I usually address them in a silly manner. But I don’t generally send stuff in the mail to married friends as a couple, because I don’t have any married friends whose spouses I know all that well.
38 years old. Female, working as an admin assistant. Live in the NW Suburbs of Chicago. Married for the third time. Have been with hubby for 8 years. Have a 14 year old son, a dog, and rent a townhouse. Drive a van. Love to cook, crosstitch, started college two years ago (it’s taking forever, but I have a perfect 4.0 GPA!!)
2.) How do you typically address mail to a married couple?
Mr and Mrs Whatevertheirnameis
3.) How do you put your return address on mail?
Mylastname
Mystreetaddress
Mytownstateandzipcode
4.) What are your age, gender, and marital status?
I’m a 34 year old woman, I work in a fairly boring admin job but it’s for a great company, so I don’t mind too much, I have a dog named Diamond, and I’m madly in love with my boyfriend.
I typically address mail to a married couple in this way: Mr & Mrs B.A. Smith. This is how I was taught when I was a little girl, and I’ve never changed.
My return address depends on where I’m living at the time. When I lived on my own, I would use my first initial and last name, then my mailing address on the next line, then my city, province and postal code on the third line. Now that I live with my honey, and we have two different last names, I don’t put any name at all.
Female. Live with my boyfriend. ( But I already said all that! )
So WHAT IS THE THEORY? Don’t leave us hanging like this!!!
Middle-class American of northern European heritage living in the PNW in a suburban area, some college education, work full-time as a bookkeeper, childless, Protestant, Republican, first-born child, ISTJ (Myers-Briggs), Scorpio (I don’t believe in astrology, but it might help with your theory, for all I know).
Depends - usually “John & Jane Smith”, unless I don’t know them very well or it’s a formal invitation, etc. - then I use “Mr. & Mrs. John Smith”.
We have pre-printed address labels and a stamp that list us in the “John & Jane Smith” format. If I have to hand-write it, I use the “Jane Smith” format. Sometimes I also use “J. Smith”, so I can disguise my gender. My husband has the same first initial as me, so I also do this on rebate requests, etc.
I’m blonde and blue-eyed, work part-time in the telecommunications field, do transcription at home and write children’s books. I’m my 10-year-old son’s cub scout den leader and little league team mom. I love reading, baseball, ice hockey and 70s/80s headbanger music, and my favorite movies are The Wizard of Oz and Hedwig and the Angry Inch. I live near the beach in Southern California.
2.) How do you typically address mail to a married couple?
I’m assuming you mean to a married couple that I know well. I always put the woman’s name first, as in “Elizabeth and Opie Taylor.”
3.) How do you put your return address on mail?
On generic mail, I put my first initial, followed by my hyphenated (maiden-married) name. On mail to good friends, I tend to do something along the lines of “Ella and The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald.” They always know who it’s from.
4.) What are your age, gender, and marital status?
I’m 48 years old, female and have been married 12 years.
I’m 4’10", vaguely plump, and I like my hair best when it’s dyed red. I don’t look seventeen anymore. I am a born reader, a half-decent poet, a natural multi-tasker, a cynic, and most of the time I just let the chaos of my life with 4 children wash over me. I think of myself as a political conservative but if pinned down I rarely fit the mold. I homeschool for non-religious reasons. I have a house full of projects I have started but will never finish.
<Name> and <Name> <Surname>
With these nifty little rainbow stickers I got, 500 of 'em for $9.
4.) What are your age, gender, and marital status?
I’m a 2nd year law student, a liberal democrat (on everything but gun control), deist, feminist, and Barbie doll collector. This is my first post.
Jane and John Smith (according to Miss Manners, the woman’s name goes first if you’re not using the Mr. and Mrs. format) for most people.
Ms. Jane Doe and Mr. John Smith if they’ve kept their own names (the “and” indicates that they’re married, so I also use it for gay couples who live together, even if they haven’t married yet).
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith if they’re very old.
I don’t put a comma between the town and state anymore, and I write the zip code much bigger than everything else.
Jane and John Doe-Smith. We have labels with rustic New England scenes for every season.
Now that you mention it, I don’t put the comma in between the city and the state any longer, either. I haven’t for a couple of years, now. I also make the ZIP code larger than the rest.
The theory is: “I believe I can post a mysterious message in IMHO, get bunches of people to respond, and drive them crazy by never revealing the answer.”
**1.) Tell me a little about yourself. **
I teach preschool. I have 2 cats and 1 dog. I love chocolate.
I hate popcorn, licorice and hot weather.
2.) How do you typically address mail to a married couple?
John & Jane Smith, if they share a last name.
For Christmas cards or party invites to a family, The Smith Family.
If they don’t share a last name, John Smith & Jane Martin.
If they have kids, John Smith & Jane Martin & family.
3.) How do you put your return address on mail?
For bills: LastName and then address.
For Christmas cards: The LastName Family and then address
4.) What are your age, gender, and marital status?
39, Female, Married.
I’m 43, female, married, mother of two sons; I’m a mechanical engineer who does energy conservation audits, and (until recent injury) I taught fitness walking part time at the YMCA (and hope to again.)
John & Mary Smith (or Mary & John Smith, depending upon who is my “primary” friend. If they don’t share the same last name, then its John Smith & Mary Jones, or vice versa. I DON’T do “Mr. & Mrs. John Smith,” and I would shoot myself before addressing a letter to “Mrs. John Smith.”
LastName; street address; city, state, zip. Or, I just use one of the myriad return address labels that mail-spammers like to send our way.
I’m 43, female, married
(1A: And obviously someone who doesn’t read all the questions before beginning to answer them)
I just had to respond to this one…
I would also (normally) not use “Mr. & Mrs. John Smith” except for something really formal, and never if the wife had kept her maiden name. (I’d do “Mr. John Smith & Ms. Jane Roe”)
I would never do “Mrs. John Smith,” either. I would do “Mrs. Jane Smith,” however.
Funny story, though…
When I was getting married, I printed my own address labels for the invites, and for a friend of my mom’s (everyone calls her Peggy, real name is Margaret, widowed for 20-some years), I had made her label up to say, “Mrs. Margaret Smith.” My mom corrected me and told me hers had better say, “Mrs. John Smith.” Apparently she is SUCH a stickler for etiquette, that’s how she would expect it to be, even after being a widow for so long. Go figure.
