I thought I could hear a whooshing sound.
Adding the word “homophobes” to the title changes the OP completely.
I retract all of my above posts.
I read the OP as intended and it made me sad. I can’t imagine what it must be like not to be able to display affection for the person you love without incurring the ire of closeminded assholes. Things that come so instinctively and without question for us heterosexuals.
Remember Aesop’s “The Fox Who Lost His Tail”? A fox loses his tail in an accident, and thereafter preaches to other foxes how convenient it is to be tailless, citing how much faster one could run, being less prone to capture by predators, etc. He continues this harangue until an older fox admonishes him saying, “You seem to want everyone to go tailless…but I suspect that your story would change immediately if you had the option of regaining your old tail back”. It sounds like nisosbar merely resents the fact that he/she/it cannot enjoy the simple pleasures of open affection in public, as open homosexual behavior is still not condoned by mainsteam America. A simple case of sour grapes (another Aesopian reference). And keep in mind what Dr. Marcia Screiber so aptly noted that "most people who dislike homosexuals are NOT homophobic, (AFRAID of homosexuals), but are in fact homoantramarthic (DISGUSTED by homosexuals). Her analogy was the cockroach: We know it can’t hurt us individually, except through the spread of disease. We are DISGUSTED by it, not FEARING it per se. So, cockroach, don’t glorify yoursely in the misconception that straight people fear you. Know the truth; you simply disgust them.
(Why am I bothering to say this? The original thread left the tracks a long time ago.)
PDAs gross me out. I find public displays of ANY emotion gross and I don’t much care who is displaying it. It’s my Midwestern, Northern European upbringing.
BTW, 1000Voices, while you make some valid points some qualifiers and a little less generalization might have saved you from the flamejob you earned. Welcome. It’s been nice knowing you.
Waddaya mean “we”, pale face?
I hate excessive PDAs between hetero/homo/bi whatever.
God, get a ROOM!
Dammit, hit submit too soon! I also wanted to say…
Basically, I thought the OP was talking about people who say, “I don’t care if people are gay, as long as they don’t ‘flaunt’ it”, meaning, actually mention being gay, or kiss their partner, etc.
Was I wrong?
I agree with you 100%. I tend to practice the utmost discretion, even going so far as to tell Robin that I won’t kiss her in a public place, which really irritates the hell out of her. At best, I’ll hold hands, and even that makes me somewhat uncomfortable, since I’m a pretty private person around total strangers.
If you’ve seen any of my older train wrecks here in the Pit , you’ll see that discretion is a big thing with me. Good thing I back it up in my own life, lest I open myself up for charges of hypocrasy.
Good to see that my English skills have aged as well as my face… :smack:
Yes, guin, those people would be included. I guess I was inspired to post this because I see hetero PDA’s all the time (and I really mean ALL THE TIME) and it makes me wonder how homophobes like 1000voices can be so arrogant as to suggest it’s okay to be publicly affectionate with their heterosexual partners and yet, at the same time, condemn gays and lesbians who publicly behave likewise with THEIR partners in front of them.
It seems so 700 Club.
1000voices: is that your idea, or Dr. Screiber’s? I’m confused… 
“people” and “heterosexuals” are two separate groups."
I feel so cheated.
While it has become apparent that this is on some level a send up of people who see two guys kissing and go “eeewwwwies!” I do feel the need to speak up on this comment. My SO and I are affectionate, and are most certainly not homophobic. There isn’t a correllation between the two, and, as long as someone doesn’t hold people of the opposite orientation to a double standard, I don’t think there’s any harm in a good public smootching.
That being said, people who get annoyed at two guys or two girls kissing in public really piss me off. My sister–who is, at the moment, going through her “I’m bi, I’m bi, look at ME, I’m BI!” phase–used to get really annoyed when a same-sex couple kissed on TV (usually Tara and Willow from BtVS, sometimes the odd kiss on QaF when I watched at home), and I’d have to calmly point out to her that guy/girl couples did the same thing on TV shows that she watched. Hypocrisy is exceedinly irritating.
I’m a bit lost. Could someone explain slowly in small words what’s happening here? It seems that the OPer is gay with poor taste in Friends (Rachel and Joey. No, no, no! Chandler and Phoebe.) and feels that people, specficly hetrosexuals, are engaging in PDAs just to make him feel bad. That sounds a bit paranoid to me. Perhaps nisobar is the “insecure” one here. Mabye I’m wrong. As I said, I’m confused. Little help?
I just read this fascinating book and I highly recommend it to you: Final Exit by Derek Humphrey.
Y’know…
With nisobar’s two pit threads with the PDAs here and the fat woman who so offended his eyes he had to rant about it, I see a simple course of action: we need a massively obese straight couple to make out in front of nisobar as Bolero plays in the background.
I think his head will pop like he was in the movie Scanners.
Any takers on a pool for how many seconds until his cranium showers the walls?
Frankly I don’t see that as a bad thing.
But then he won’t be able to come back and bring pie!
So, all those blackbirds will remain trapped?
Oh, if only I knew where mockingbirds and blackbirds were in relation to each other on the food chain:D
Eh… just eat me.