I’m specifically interested in asking for a date/getting asked for a date in high school way back when. Or if dating was even a thing.
I was in high school in the late 70s, and for a while I went through a soul-crushing process of calling a girl up and asking her to dinner or a movie, and in retrospect I am sure the girls I called found it incredibly awkward as well. But I was clueless, and was never successful with that approach anyways.
Thinking back, it seems like it must have been a hopelessly outdated approach even then, but I think I was just modeling what I saw in older TV and movies (and a book entitled something like “Male Manners: A Guide for Teenage Boys” or something from the 1950s that my sister gave me when I was about 12.)
(OK, a quick google says “Male Manners” was published in 1969, but as I remember it I think the style it advocated was still more 1950s than 1970s.)
I now imagine that even in the 70s it was already becoming much more common to go out in a mixed group as friends, and then closer relationships might form out of that; it certainly seems to me now that would have been more fun, but I don’t really know if that was happening much back then.
I didn’t get into a group like that until my senior year. Before that, painful, dreadful phone calls were my stock in trade. And why I as a sixteen year old was asking girls to dinner instead of to do something fun, I have no idea. I just thought that was what you did when you liked a girl, I guess.
(And no, I wasn’t calling random girls I just saw from afar and thought were cute. These were girls that I was at least acquainted with and had had conversations with. There was a limit to my cluelessness.)
So how about it? Share your anecdotes or perceptions of what high school kids were doing back then, or whenever is relevant for you.