The past week. I think it’s God testing me. But I really wish He’d lay off at this point - I’m about pushed to the brink and I can’t really go any further.
First of all, last week, I get a call from my mother. A distant cousin, whom I haven’t seen since he was about six and I was a teenager, was found dead with his girlfriend in her Northern Virginia backyard last week. (Yes, if you’re asking if it’s the teen lovers in Loudon, yes - I won’t post stories here from the Post because it’s registration only, but if you live in that area, I’m sure you’ve seen it on tv or in the paper). While I wasn’t close to him, my mother is very close to his grandmother, her cousin, and we’ve all been reeling for the past week. The police still haven’t finished the investigation. And it hit me a bit hard because I have other teenaged cousins in that area who I am very, very close to, and I worry about them thinking that suicide is a way out - after all, our cousin did it. So I’ve really wanted to be with my family in the past week, but being stuck in the boonies of Ohio, I’ve only been able to be informed by the phone.
So that’s one thing that’s been consuming my mind lately. Then I find out my grandmother (my dad’s mom) went into the hospital last Friday with congestive heart failure. Of course, no one tells me this until way after the fact and she’s about to be released. Well, as the doctor was about to sign off on her release, her kidneys began failing. She’s gotten through that, and we hope she’s out of the hospital soon. As her doctor said, she’s a tough old bird and the backbone of the family - my grandfather will tell you it’s him, but we know the truth;). I adore my grandmother - she is everything I would love to be in a woman. Left home to join the Army in her twenties during WWII, met my grandfather, fell in love, married in Italy, came home to raise five children in Florida while working as a nurse her entire life. She is amazing. And every time I think about losing her, it breaks my heart. It’s the saddest thing in the world to me to know that my own children may not know her. And again, I’m in Ohio, she’s in Florida. I have no way to get down to her. However, my dear, sweet husband has promised me that if we hear something is happening, we will get in the car and drive to Florida immediately so that I can be with her. I hope we won’t have to do it, and we’ll be able to see her in May as planned, but I’m really scared for her right now.
So of course, that’s plenty right there. Then my mom calls tonight and starts a sentence with “Well, Aunt Mary’s funeral is on Friday.”. Umm…WHAT? No one bothered to tell me that my Aunt Mary had died in the first place! It’s my mother’s aunt, my great-aunt, and my mom was closer to her than I was, but I would have liked to have known about her death before being told when her funeral was. So it’s not been a good week for that side of the family. She’s had problems for awhile now - diabetes and heart disease. And now her oldest son is being a total prick about the funeral. Why do people turn into complete fucking animals when someone dies?
Of course, the cherry on the sundae was my mother telling me that she took our youngest (well, now only) cat that lives with them to the vet. He hasn’t been eating or drinking, and he’s been urinating a LOT of blood. She said she’s found blood all over the bathtub, and he urinated a lot of blood right in the vet’s office. The vet is hoping it’s just a bad bladder infection and we’ve caught it in time, but the way he was talking, something tells me it’s not. Cats usually drink a lot with bladder infections and he’s not drinking at all. In December of 2003, we still had three cats who lived with my parents. Hurricane died that December - he was sick, and wandered off and passed away in the woods. Isabella, my girl since I was 12, died in October of this year. And I can’t stand the thought of losing Rugby, too. We were going home to visit my family in February, and I’ve been looking forward to seeing him - he has been a huge attention whore since Izzy died, and I really just wanted to spend some time with him.
Add to that some personal health issues I’m dealing with, and the week has just been a fucking gem. I keep trying to make myself laugh, but it’s been hard. So God? Allah? Yahweh? Whoever the fuck is pulling this shit? Knock it the fuck off. I’m sick and tired of it. At least throw a lottery win in the middle of this somewhere, would you? Or a free trip to the Bahamas? Anything to break up the slew of tragedies and bad news.
E.