First off, as a man, I can enjoy a well done romance in a movie, even if I generally don’t care for the sappy romcoms. Sure, there’s some movies that can be done fine without romance, but the fact remains that romance is a BIG part of the human condition, and leaving it out because it isn’t strictly necessary is as silly of a decision as shoehorning one in. They have a place in a lot of films, but the problem is they’re often either played up or just done poorly.
For instance, without defending the Star Wars prequels, I think Anakin having a romance was absolutely necessary. What should have been compelling about it was the forbidden aspect of it, that she was trying to be a leader, that he was essentially a monk in a religious order. There was also the line from the original trilogy of Leia recalling her mother as sad, which they unfortunately crapped all over. Regardless, we needed to see Anakin as part of his training, it was an integral part to his relationship with Obiwan, and so his love interest would have had to have been introduced at some point in the story. I get that George Lucas was trying to make it tragic, that his desperation, his fear, of losing her is what turned him, it’s an important part of what leads to the dark side from the original trilogy. Yes, the romance was terribly executed, along with a lot of other aspects of the films, but it had to be in there. The argument here shouldn’t be that it should have been removed, but that it should have been done better. I would have liked to have seen her continue her political role more strongly in the second and third film. I’d go more in depth, but that’s really best placed in a thread on how to fix those films.
Now, I haven’t seen the new Hobbit yet, but a good example of a recent unnecessary love triangle as I see it would be Jane Foster (interestingly, also Natalie Portman) in Thor. I think her character is completely superfluous, and apparently had Jamie Alexander not gotten injured on set, they were going to play up the love triangle between Thor, Jane, and Sif. I would have rather seen Sif be a more major character, and leave it just kind of unstated that they may or may not have affection for one another, but their comradery as soldiers, and her loyalty to him as her prince, puts their duty first.
Unfortunately, putting all of this on women is ridiculous. Movie studios make films that the demographics want to see. Part of the problem is, men are less inclined to see a film about a strong female lead. When we go to see an action film, we expect it to be hyper-stylized, when the action hero is a muscled-up bad-ass, and he’s out to save the damsel in distress. This is part of why Hollywood is scared to pull the trigger on more female leads, because this is what we, the audience, have said we want, by buying the tickets.
This is particularly why we haven’t seen any female superheroes of note go anywhere. Even in the recent Avengers film, Black Widow is still over-sexualized and the least useful next to the completely useless Hawkeye. I had actually been excited over the prospect of a Wonder Woman appearance in the upcoming Batman vs. Superman, strong placement in Justice League, and possibly her own spin-off film. I think she’s a fascinating character, and the tie-ins with Greek mythology are awesome. However, I’m not sure what we’ll end up with when they cast a world-renowned actor as Batman, and then a virtual unknown model as Wonder Woman. I fear that sort of casting means they felt they needed that level of acting to get us to buy Batman as being a real threat to Superman, and I agree it’ll be a tough sell on film, but that they’re not really concerned with trying to make Wonder Woman their equal as well.
Anyway, my take is, romance in movies is fine, it’s all over every other form of art, music, poetry, fine arts, TV, so it should be just as present in film. I’d like to see it done better when it’s in a drama. I’d also like to see more women in roles that aren’t just the romantic interest. But in the end, the best way to fix this is to support movies that do this. Gravity is an excellent recent example and, frankly, it didn’t even occur to me until I read this thread, precisely because it was so well done that it just worked.