*Please note: the question is **NOT **whether a single, childless person who has no family and lives alone can invite friends, etc., over to make the place more festive, homey, cozy, and generally a more fun place to be. I believe the obvious answer to that is “yes.” *
My question is: is it really Home when I am here by myself with no one else here and no children, family (siblings, parents, etc.), or Significant Other in my life?
Sometimes it feels like home and sometimes it doesn’t. I can’t put my finger on what makes the difference.
I have a friend who lives alone and never has anyone over. He has two cats and he says he and the cats constitute a family and he feels quite at home there. I do have cats and dogs. But I don’t think of myself and my pets as a real family. It feels like a pretend family.
Suggested discussion questions:
-What makes a home?
-Can you make a home for yourself by yourself?
-When does a place become home?
-When does it STOP being home (for example, you start spending so much time at your SO’s place that their place feels more like home than your place)?
-Can a person be Your Home? (One of my girlfriends says this about her husband, “When I’m with him, I’m home.”)
-Do you sometimes feel more at home in a temporary place (like a camp, or a hotel room) than you do at your primary residence?
-How do you make yourself feel welcome in your own home?
-Does taking care of the home (cleaning, fixing, decorating) make it feel more like your home?