Let’s take the OP at face value. I see no reason to suspect trollery, and it’s a potentially interesting question, which as noted has been attacked.
The question is, stripped of potential pyrogenic concepts, if a particular behavioral pattern results in failure to reproduce, why is it not effectively bred out of the gene pool?
Well, consider that the sort of religious devotion that causes someone to espouse a role as a Catholic priest, a monk, a nun, a nursing sister, a friar, etc., results in the removal of the person posssing such devotion from the gene pool. Yet, fluctuations to one side, there have historically been regular “vocations” of these sorts on an ongoing basis.
For many years, a specific woman might find it her proper role to fail to marry and instead stay home and take care of her aged parents in their declining years. I had relatives who did precisely that. The social impetus toward this behavior seems to have slackened, but it was clearly a historical feature that did not breed itself out of the human gene pool.
Obviously, something of value to the race as a whole is garnered by the activities these persons engage in instead of reproduction. The care of the elderly, the various good works pursued by celibate clergy and religious, etc., apparently provide adequate benefit to the species to be selected for.
There was at one time the concept prevailing that having persons who were not tied down to the support of a family and free to pursue other activities, including the voluntary assistance they might render to a family which was in some way impaired (man is gored by mammoth tusk and laid up, hence cannot go out and kill Irish elk for supper; woman dies in childbirth, leaving small children who still need care), was sufficiently beneficial to the species to warrant selection for those genes despite their immediate contra-survival tendency in failure to perpetuate themselves in children.
This is totally speculative but does have some evolutionary sense behind it. And people who were gay would obviously be a part of that group of not-tied-down-to-family people.
One might also note that the criterion for “being gay” in our present mind set is a homosexual orientation. This does not, of course, immediately and mandatorily imply having sex with another person of the same sex, merely the tendency to find them sexually attractive. And historically there have been some awfully large closets. Behaviorally, a bi person or a gay person attempting to cover up his or her gayness (conceivably from himself/herself as well) might marry and engender children. Though this would be somewhat rare, it does provide a means of perpetuating a “gay gene.”
Finally, the idea that gayness is genetic is not proven. In the seventies, we “knew” that it was psychologically based, the result of a domineering or smother-loving mother and a weak or absent father. In the nineties, we “knew” that it was genetic. There seems to be some evidence that it may be congenital, the product of a “testosterone flood” in the brain of the child during fetal development. Me, I’m not holding out any bets for discovery of any particular cause. I suspect it has some parallels with why the dinosaurs went extinct: any one answer has some validity but is not the answer.
Discuss.