I’ve been spending a lot of time lately thinking about marriages and the responsibilities of the two people in different circumstances. I’d be interested in hearing a bunch of opinions about the situation from all of you Dopers. As a seed for conversation, how about first letting us know your own life status, generally, then considering the following situations (and any others you have stuff to say about). Think about the way the people’s generation, gender, and number of kids might affect things. Let me know what you think the people “ought” to do.
One spouse works a medium to low paying job, just enough to support the family, kind of. The other “doesn’t want” to work.
One spouse works a very well-paying job. The other “doesn’t want” to work.
The couple start a family. They have about three small children in close succession.
The youngest child is off to all-day school, meaning constant childcare isn’t needed.
5a) All the kids are now self-sufficient adults, meaning no childcare at all is needed.
5b) One spouse has spent a decade or more entirely out of the job market. S/he isn’t ambitious or career driven at all, and could continue to stay home full time, but needs something to keep busy.
- The couple wants a family but are also both highly career-driven people who won’t take time off of work to be stay-at-homes.