Hahahahahahaha~ I’m sorry; it’s just so funny. To the OP: If you travel overseas, you’d better check into the bathroom situations of the countries you want to visit BEFORE you visit. Here in Korea, bathrooms are co-ed. I often have to pass a few men standing at urinals on my way to a stall. Usually, if you want to wash up, you do it standing at a sink that is next to a urinal that invariably has a man standing there using it. I’ve heard that male ex-pats here get to the point where they don’t mind at all (and perhaps even like a little) when women come in while they are at the urinal. 
There’s a whole movement, if you will, surrounding this notion. Check it out.
Oh for goodness sake. I just checked out your link GuanoLad. Just when I thought I had heard of everything!
I use to have “stage fright” too, but not anymore. I don’t know of any trick to get rid of it overnight. I had to practice, and eventually it got easier. Nowadays, I rarely think of it.
Some tips to get the ball rolling:
Don’t go until you really need to go. This may not be enough on its own to work, but it helps.
Relax your abdomen and breathe from your belly. Let your mind drift to something else. If appropriate, making conversation can help. Once flow starts, focus on your breath again to keep the flow going. Straining rarely helps.
If you drink alcohol, be sure to use a urinal next to a guy when you’re drunk. It’s easy to relax then, and it will make it easier to do it in the future when you’re sober.
Keep the faith! You can get over this if you work at it.
I would have to disagree with this. When I’m bursting at the seams, it feels like something is pinched, and it is even more difficult for it to “flow”. Ever notice that when you’re alone and comfortable, and you’re full, that it still comes out slow? So I suggest when drinking, go to the bathroom as often as possible, no matter how shy you are. It’s much easier to go when you just begin to feel the sensations, then when you really “need” to go. Trust me on this. I had to go so bad once at a crowded bar, and it was getting to be very painful. It just wouldn’t happen. I left the bar and walked over to the empty Taco Bell across the street. Even when by myself, it was so hard to pee, I almost died.
Here in Japan, you can enjoy taking a piss while the little 55-ish Japanese janitress swabs out the urinal next to you. Just think what that would do for your urinary tract stricture! Then, just when she’s got that urinal next to you all sparkly… her brother starts using it… but he’s trying to see if your urinal is cleaner than his.
Hey, engineer_comp_geek, there’s a few cool sites that do that Urinal Test in a visual fashion.
Here’s my favorite
Here’s a flash version.
Oh, and OtakuLoki, I hear where you’re coming from, brother! I suffered horrible fear every month when they called out the magic number for urinalysis – not because I had smoked anything, but because I suffered badly from stage fright. When I chatted with the MAA after one gleefully successful pee, he told me that more than half of the guys had at least some trouble performing.
I can’t give any good advice other than to let it build up (apparently a controversial tactic here), and then go to a bathroom with strangers in it, if full bathrooms are unavoidable.
Maybe you could drink Pepsi Max, a diuretic, an hour or two before you want to go.
I was (attempting) to use the dreaded 20’ long trough at the old Memorial Stadium in Baltimore with a line 5 men deep in each of the aprox. 25 lines. I finally got my opportunity, and after grunting and clenching for 30 seconds, the guy behind me says, and belive me when I say that this DOES NOT HELP, “come on buddy, squeeze it out”. I zipped up, schleped out the exit, back in the entrence and back in line for a stall.
Has anyone tried a brief rub/scratch of the base of the spine just above the asscrack? That was my advice to a male friend with stage fright. I’m female, but I’ve had it, too. (Yes, even in a stall- isn’t it sad?)
It’s my understanding that the muscles have enough of a connection there for it to be of some use in relaxing. I stumbled onto it as a technique at some point or another after years of counting down from ten. Luckily, nobody had the nerve to bang on the stall door during my struggles. (Instant mission abort, I’m sure most of the folks in this thread would agree.)
Just had reconfirmation from my friend before posting. He said the more full the bladder is, the better it works, but YMMV.
So, any guys wanna run a field test?