Um… why aren’t these people actually being parents and saying “I’m not driving you around anymore?”
If you’re “begging” your kids to do something, you’ve failed.
It’s obvious why you’re still single.
I think you may be better off working on your feelings of inferiority for not having a driving license than trying to meet someone who shares that limitation.
If I were considering dating someone, “do they have a drivers license” would not be a controlling factor. I probably wouldn’t even know for a few dates.
It’s fine that you don’t have a drivers license. Maybe you’ll try a few more times and you’ll get one, or maybe you’ll never get one. But not having one doesn’t make you a bad person or undesirable.
The number of women who meet you somewhere and enjoy your company, and think “I’d like to date this guy” who will change that opinion when they find out you don’t drive has to be pretty close to zero.
I’m gonna have to disagree here. My opinion comes from practical experience.
I once dated, on separate occasions, two different women that did not drive. Not just no license, but could not drive. While they were nice ladies, with fine personalities, the thought of always having to go get them to do anything started to look like a burden I did not want to bear. Note that I do not live in NYC or DC or SF or any city that is non-driver-friendly. There’s no place in the greater Phoenix area that has public transportation connection to anywhere close to me. If things progressed, and they stayed over (wink wink nudge nudge) I’d have to go get them and take them home the next day. That means either an extra hour per day most likely just driving.
Plus, if we ever became a full-time couple, and we went anywhere by car, I’d be forced to do all the driving. I think I’d start to see her as a freeloader than an equal partner. I mean, who doesn’t drive out here? (obviously, at least two people, who seemed to get along fine. I wonder if they still don’t drive.)
So, yea, having a partner (or even a date) who doesn’t drive IS a factor.
How can I meet women who don’t have drivers’ licences, but do have low self-esteem?
Most people I know don’t have licences, at least for cars. I know a girl licenced only for FLT, and I am licenced only for motorbicycles.
Totally fair. This could be important or not important, depending on location and lifestyle.
I live in Santa Barbara. The area is fairly compact and the weather is temperate. I’m not sure how good the public transportation is, but I know lots of people who get around primarily by bicycle. I have a car, but I use it about twice a week most of the year.
A coworker mentioned that her college-age daughter doesn’t have a license yet, and what the daughter and her friends will do is to split the cost of a Uber fare to get places.
How the hell are you going to go on dates? Take the bus?
That’s romantic as fuck.
Women are impressed by expensive vehicles. Do you have any idea what a bus costs?
If I were you, I’d start by not telling prospective dates that the reason you don’t drive is that you failed the written test that many times. Instead, you could claim that you’re trying to minimize your carbon footprint. In short, pretend you’re being virtuous as a non-driver.
Must not be from California, then - at least, if the kids are girls. Car insurance costs for teenage girls skyrocketed in California after Proposition 103 made it illegal for an insurance company to charge teenage boys more for insurance than teenage girls, even though the boys are responsible for far more accidents.
You’re doing it wrong. Find a chick with a license so she can drive you around.
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Moved to IMHO.
Disclaimer: I didn’t read the whole thread.
Just popped in to say that if you really feel this way before you’ve even met someone, you’re too insecure to date. Get over this immediately. Not having a license is nothing. Being this insecure is a major turn-off.
Start thinking like this: any woman who is bothered by the fact that I don’t have a driver’s license isn’t someone I want to know.
Carry on.
+1
What I believe happens when a guy has no car, he internalizes a feeling of inadequacy and this gets manifested in his interactions with women. It ain’t the lack of a car, it’s what that lack of a car does to your self-image.
OK, so you don’t get to drive. Does being in a bus with a female driver give you rashes? If it’s OK to be in public transportation with a female driver, why would it be unacceptable to be in private transportation with a female driver? Are there any things in which you’re willing to let a partner make decisions, or do you always need to either be in charge or be able to tell yourself you are?
Indeed. As my Driver Ed teacher pointed out, if you take your date somewhere on the bus, you can use both hands.
Or a big shepherd’s crook…
The OP’s reasoning is fundamentally flawed. He has no driver’s license, so he wants to pursue women who also have no driver’s license. This implies that these women will want to date him.
Come on, OP, get real: No one wants to date a guy with no driver’s license. You’ll die alone.
That depends on the chocolate.
To the OP: I see women standing around on street corners in the big city. I don’t think they have a driver’s license, since they never get in a car by themselves. They always get into a car that someone else is driving, almost always a man. There is usually a short conversation first, where I presume he asks if she has a DL and, if not, would like to date. These guys seem successful in getting a date the vast majority of the time. Perhaps you could get an Uber driver to take you to one of these corners.